Themanwithaplan Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 This girl who's been leading me on since June rejected me via text today by saying she's seeing someone else now so she can't hang out. I'm pissed at myself for letting it happen and not moving on months ago when she showed me how flaky she is. Also pissed at myself for giving her too much room since I thought she wanted to go slow and thereby allowing someone else the opporunity to scoop her up. At least I got laid I guess. Would you respond to that kind of text or would you just ignore her and delete her off facebook? The last thing I want to do is give her any type of emotional response. I know Im not thinking about this 100 percent clearly. Thanks!
ComingInHot Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 May I ask if you would ever consider seeing her again if she back around? It may alter an immediate emotional response depending on the answer *
Phoe Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Don't respond, delete, block, move on 100% 5
mightycpa Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 You don't sound too broken up about it. You sound like a guy who went exclusive too early and ended up wasting his time and money. Live and learn. I'd text her back and say "OK. Let me know if you're ever available again." then decide if you ever hear back. You never know, you might need to get laid again when she checks in with you. 1
Assasda Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 hahaha you think that if you locked her down, hide her away like a little damsel, that she wouldnt get with anyone else. You are super insecure - Which is why she probably left you. Anyway man, dont say anything, just move on
Author Themanwithaplan Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 I decided to respond with "no sweat, have a good one!" Time to be over it like I shoulda been months ago. 1
Author Themanwithaplan Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 hahaha you think that if you locked her down, hide her away like a little damsel, that she wouldnt get with anyone else. You are super insecure - Which is why she probably left you. Anyway man, dont say anything, just move on I think she was either dating someone else the whole time who she was more interested in or that I gave her the wrong impression(that I wasn't interested In a relationship). Both scenarios are opposites on the intentions spectrum. Obviously I'm not going to ask her. I don't think I'm any less secure than most guys. I know I'm decent looking, fit, tall, nice, fun, etc... She just likes to pick and choose. Which is fair in the world of dating, as much as it sucks sometimes.
CaliGuy Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I decided to respond with "no sweat, have a good one!" Time to be over it like I shoulda been months ago. Don't respond at all. What is the point? She made it clear, responding at all validates her. Move along my friend, nothing to see here... 1
ComingInHot Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I decided to respond with "no sweat, have a good one!" Time to be over it like I shoulda been months ago. good answer*
LostOnes05 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I would say, "Ok, thanks for letting me know. It was nice getting to know you. Take care." That way you don't look like a jerk and doesn't seem like you're too bothered by it. But I would respond, as I think not responding looks like she hurt your feelings. I wouldn't initiate any further contact with her though. I don't necessarily think it's insecurity. Women play games with men (and vice versa) because they can, and there is really nothing you can do about that. If you yell and scream, then that justifies her actions toward you. If you wish her well (even if you're pissed beyond measure- i've been there), you can at least walk away knowing that you did nothing wrong. 2
Author Themanwithaplan Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 It seems like not responding can be perceived in a multitude of different ways. I was going to respond with what I wrote but didn't hit that send button. I like the idea of keeping her guessing what my intentions are for a change...I probably would reconsider hanging out with her again(as a FRIEND, proven she's not ltr material but she is hot) if I'm honest w myself. But I feel compelled to delete her off FB, although I see what that would probably mean. Out of site out of mind though... I'm pretty sure I dodged a bullet in the long run. As a side note, this is the first girl I've ever taken the approach of not calling or texting between dates except to set up dates. Not sure if it would have played out differently either way but I think I'll try to open up the doors of communication earlier on the next one. Like I said, no regrets think I dodged a bad one.
cif Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 As a side note, this is the first girl I've ever taken the approach of not calling or texting between dates except to set up dates. Not sure if it would have played out differently either way but I think I'll try to open up the doors of communication earlier on the next one. Like I said, no regrets think I dodged a bad one. Sorry it didnt work out. Relationships are built on communication. Soooo if youre serious about someone having in between conversations are important. Otherwise its just bootie calls.
mightycpa Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Maybe she'd be a good source to meet other women. Don't overlook that.
you_can_not_see_me Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 good for you OP move on and find another gal.
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