Gloria25 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I gotta question here... Is it true that boys (kids I'm saying) sometimes are mean to girls they actually like (i.e. pinching a girl, teasing her). And, Do some guys act like this when they get past their childhood, tweens, teens, and even early adulthood? If that's a "yes", what age do guys normally act like this and what do they do (i.e. trying to make her jealous, pretending they don't like her)? BTW, I'm not talking about physical or mental abuse by men (i.e. actually beating women, calling them ho's, byches, berating them).
carhill Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 The most I've seen from fellow adult males is flirtatious teasing or banter. I'm sure some guys still do act that way but I haven't seen it in decades. However, things can get a bit boisterous when there's a group of men and a head turner enters the room. That's always fun to watch, how they posture and position themselves with and against each other to garner her attention. Some of that might include colorful comments. Seems to be more of a group thing than individual, since the behavior appears to come out when in groups.
d0nnivain Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Some times you will see it in sports team heckling. If he knows she's a fan of a particular team he'll root for the other team or bad mouth her choice.
Assasda Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 As a kid I think you'd tease a girl that you liked. Nothing harmful or very mean. Kinda like pulling the hair, not because you want to hurt them, but because you like their hair. I think its the same when youre older. You might tease a girl, but it usually isnt anything too harmful. It also depends on how tough the girls are, then, teasing might gets notched up accordingly. Girls like teasing anyway
smackie9 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Teasing and friendly bantering like a big brother would do, is a type of flirting. Most men in general don't go out of their way being rude unless they are complete jacka sses. At work when we like someone we will tease them usually in a group, but we will laugh joyfully so they know we are joking with them. If it gets out of hand we will tell them we do it because we love them lol.
Phoe Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I'd say most of the time the teasing is a sign of flirtation, but not always. There's a guy at work who pinches me, flicks my arms, pushes me if I'm kneeling down, which makes me fall over, grabbing my ankle and pulling it if I've got me knee resting on my work chair. He does it because he is amused by my reactions. I shout at him and berate him, and since most people find my angry face amusing, he does too, and he laughs. If I see him coming, sometimes I'll be prepared and move away before he can touch me, but if I'm caught off guard, I may find myself pushed to the floor and angrily shouting at him 1
smackie9 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I'd say most of the time the teasing is a sign of flirtation, but not always. There's a guy at work who pinches me, flicks my arms, pushes me if I'm kneeling down, which makes me fall over, grabbing my ankle and pulling it if I've got me knee resting on my work chair. He does it because he is amused by my reactions. I shout at him and berate him, and since most people find my angry face amusing, he does too, and he laughs. If I see him coming, sometimes I'll be prepared and move away before he can touch me, but if I'm caught off guard, I may find myself pushed to the floor and angrily shouting at him If it were me that's when I would get him fired. 1
Phoe Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 If it were me that's when I would get him fired. Well, he's the manager, so there's no one above him that's in our immediate workplace. HR won't do anything. A year ago a man grabbed my breast at work. I immediately informed the manager and we called HR. The employee got 2 weeks PAID leave and then was brought back to work like nothing happened. He pretty much got a paid vacation and then I had to continue working with the man who physically sexually harassed me. Good times
NJ123 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Well, he's the manager, so there's no one above him that's in our immediate workplace. HR won't do anything. A year ago a man grabbed my breast at work. I immediately informed the manager and we called HR. The employee got 2 weeks PAID leave and then was brought back to work like nothing happened. He pretty much got a paid vacation and then I had to continue working with the man who physically sexually harassed me. Good times what kind of sick place are you working at? I would have quit if I was harassed by managers & co-workers & nothing was done about it.
Phoe Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 what kind of sick place are you working at? I would have quit if I was harassed by managers & co-workers & nothing was done about it. Can't quit, it pays the bills. Once I find a place that pays as well or better, with the same stability i currently have, then yes, I will be gone.
NJ123 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Can't quit, it pays the bills. Once I find a place that pays as well or better, with the same stability i currently have, then yes, I will be gone. Well, true. I just don't get how nothing was even done about it though. That's ridiculous. Guess it wasn't on camera of them doing it to you so that's why they weren't fired.
preraph Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Some guys do do that, but I just have to say that if the teasing or pinching is hurtful and his words are cruel, you don't want to have anything to do with him because behind every joke, there's some truth so if he's saying cruel things and saying he's teasing, he's thinking those ugly things and saying them using them being a joke as an excuse. I don't see why you'd want to take up with someone like that. Your instincts are telling you no, so you should listen to them.
Phoe Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Well, true. I just don't get how nothing was even done about it though. That's ridiculous. Guess it wasn't on camera of them doing it to you so that's why they weren't fired. There are cameras going 24/7. Whether footage was ever watched, I don't know. HR called several people over those 2 weeks and asked for clarification. My 2 witnesses vouched for my story. I don't know why they came to the conclusion to drop the case, but they did.
NJ123 Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 There are cameras going 24/7. Whether footage was ever watched, I don't know. HR called several people over those 2 weeks and asked for clarification. My 2 witnesses vouched for my story. I don't know why they came to the conclusion to drop the case, but they did. Sounds like some sort of cover up. Wouldn't surprise me if someone pulled some strings to not get the other guy fired.
Wisecrack Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Yep most definately and I still do. But I keep physical stuff to those woman whom I am close to or interested in and have broken past that physical trust barrier. At that, if I knew a girl who was a little more serious, I'd tone my teasing down to a bit more sarcasm and humor and intelligence. It's about tuning yourself into the girl. If it was a new girl I met at work or social life, I'd obvious be reserved first. Whats fun in life if you cannot have a bit of teasing or banter
gaius Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 I don't know any other way to talk to a woman I like except starting a fight.
GemmaUK Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 I gotta question here... Is it true that boys (kids I'm saying) sometimes are mean to girls they actually like (i.e. pinching a girl, teasing her). Yes. Do some guys act like this when they get past their childhood, tweens, teens, and even early adulthood? If that's a "yes", what age do guys normally act like this and what do they do (i.e. trying to make her jealous, pretending they don't like her)? There is no upper age limit as far as I know. Certainly men in their forties still act this way. Things like trying to make her jealous and pretending not to like her can be indicators of insecurity and a need for reassurance - they try to get a rise - if they don't get one they get a bit miffed so try again. On a lighter note and when it's more in the form of teasing it can just be part of banter and flirting and can be good fun if you give it right back.
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