What does a man's Facebook account say about his dating prowess?

[JuneJulySeptember]

Ladies,

 

What does a man's Facebook account say about his dating potential?

 

Do you gauge the breadth and quality of his social circle through his friend network?

 

Do you gauge where he's been and how much excitement he might bring you by his photos?

 

Do you judge how smart and interesting he might be by the political comments, witty jokes, links to iPhone6 vids, and uplifting -isms?

 

These are things that women want in themselves and in a man. It's basically a dating profile on steroids.

 

Be honest. Discuss.

[Gaeta]

* I never add men I date on my FB

 

My FB is an open window to my life and to my love ones life. It's a privilege I will give a very special man that has proven himself to me, not random joe blows I start dating.

 

Second, I find it very dangerous to browse FB of people you don't know. It's a place for you to misinterpret what you're seeing and create misunderstandings.

 

Third, with the amount of men I dated I am now only interested in how he will treat me so I don't give a rat@ss about his FB, how many friends, trip pictures, or who's comments he likes and what he posts.

[Tayken]

Facebook is for losers....and any "real man" i.e. mature in age and mannerism wouldn't be spending time on facebook anyway. So perhaps you mean a boy / guy?

 

This is one of my other red flags....I can't be with someone who's idea of being active is spending waking hours on Facebook, Instagram, Pinetrest, etc

 

Before you go calling me a technophobe, I'll like to point out that one of my degrees is in computer engineering, I have over 2 decades experience in the field, but now work in an extreme part of it with gadgets that cost millions of dollars and requires a certain security clearance.

 

I have never been into video games (I am not that guy in the basement), but just can't stand social media.

 

so I don't give a rat@ss about his FB, how many friends, trip pictures, or who's comments he likes and what he posts.

 

So you haven't been on the 35 yr old's Facebook page to snoop around then?

[JuneJulySeptember]

 

Third, with the amount of men I dated I am now only interested in how he will treat me so I don't give a rat@ss about his FB, how many friends, trip pictures, or who's comments he likes and what he posts.

 

What does that mean?

 

That you used to date guys for how much they brought to the table, but got burned a bunch of times, so now are looking for a nice guy?

[d0nnivain]

It means absolutely nothing.

 

Early on and especially before dating neither side should have access to this.

[LoneIsland]

Through my extensive research and experimentation. You only need 2 words for your profile. Rich, Handsome. These will reel in even the coldest of ice maidens.

[Gaeta]

So you haven't been on the 35 yr old's Facebook page to snoop around then?

 

Nope! I have only asked him his last name this Tuesday.

 

I dated my last official boyfriend for 6 months and we never added each other.

[d0nnivain]

Also somebody's OL presence isn't a true reflection of who they are IRL.

 

Just because you can search for hours to write some wisdom on your wall doesn't mean you can hold a conversation in the moment.

[Fondue]

Holy ****, man. If you're worried about your social media presence, then you're really got some issues.

 

Quit facebook. It only hinders you. Life is much improved without that nonsense.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Perhaps if I was in my early twenties and still dating it might be something I would have done but nowadays I can't be bothered to commit that much energy to dissecting every detail I see online.

 

I'm with Gaeta when she said that her FB is reserved for close family and friends. I am exactly the same away. I don't add just anyone and have been known to be pretty brutal about unfriending people if/when I think is necessary regardless if they're family or not.

 

Facebook and Twitter or any social media channel for that matter, especially those that are wide open for all to see, are just a glorified highlight wheels of people's lives. I've said it before and I will say it again, nothing is as it seems and a great many things can be taken out of context for good or bad.

 

Those that go on posting frenzies always raise red flags for me. Anyone who spends that much time and energy posting status updates and pictures (especially selfies) come across as super needy to me, like they're desperate for attention and/or validation. It looks and feels exhausting!

 

So to answer your question, Although I have been known to Google or check out a prospective suitors FB account on occasion if only to get the dime-store tour, I know better than to put too much stock in what I see or read.

 

Having said that, if he's a social media tramp as in someone who loves to parade his personal life all over the internet, it will likely be an issue for me and inhibit me from engaging further with him long term.

Edited September 27, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle

[Rock Chick]

My question is....What does it say about YOU the fact that you are stalking his Facebook profile to get info on him? Creepy to me. I'd prefer to get to know a person in real life and not "peek in his windows" so to speak.