irc333 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Surprisingly, I work at a place that has say...around 100 employees. 2 couples of which work in the building are married. Another...living together. They even come to work and go home together. A woman's ex hooked her up to work there as well. One even hired his girlfriend. (He's now her supervisor). But considering how people highly advise against this kind of thing, would you say this is unusual, especially if things are working out well?
Joaquin Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 (edited) Its very common for people to have had or be in relationships with people they met at work. I could see it being a bit difficult if there is a messy break up and your both stuck looking at each other every day. I think the work place is a good place to find and build romantic relationships, but not a good place to endure a break up when you work together. So just be sure he or she is worth it! Edited September 27, 2014 by Joaquin
LoneIsland Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 (edited) It's fine if it works out, and rather good because the cost of meeting her is low. If it doesn't, then every man, woman, and child in the company is going to hear about your perversions. Although this might excite some other women who have never taken an interest in you before. Edited September 27, 2014 by LoneIsland
GemmaUK Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 They even come to work and go home together. Er...why would they not? It can absolutely work and absolutely not work. I've seen both. Myself and a couple of other members of staff managed to become embroiled in one co-worker RS disaster as the guy had been stalking and threatening our female colleague. He ended up getting written warnings and instead of getting fired HR aided him in finding a new job with another company. Those who it has worked for set boundaries, stuck with them and remained professional while in the work place. These were the ones who when new staff joined they wouldn't even know the two were a couple unless it happened to be mentioned later down the line.
StanMusial Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 It's not uncommon. I have recommended it on here before but I don't anymore after reading a lot of posts.
Tayken Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 No two ways about it......the answer is an emphatic NO. Get your head out of your cloud for a second, and think what will happen if and when things go awry i.e. you still have to work there. Additionally, if you two get serious and company closes down, you are both out of a job Having a quickie ala Xmas party let your guard down is one thing, but prolonged relationship is NOT worth it. Regardless it happens more often than not with females having affairs with bosses in order to get ahead (the reverse irony)
fortyninethousand322 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Depends. Big office with hundreds of people where if it doesn't work out you don't have to see the person necessarily every day, or it won't mess with your work? Should be no problem. In retail where no one really takes it serious except management? Should be no problem. As long as it's not a small office or involves a power dynamic (supervisor/management with regular workers, etc.) then it's not an issue.
loveboid Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 NOOOOOOO. I did it three times and all times were horrible. Likewise, one time I waited until we no longer worked together and it has been the best relationship and career decision I have made. I am saying this with a big sigh. I am not sure what for, relief? That I finally learned? Never know, it may work for you.
preraph Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Depending on the situation, it can cause great resentment with other coworkers who will assume someone is getting preferential treatment. It also complicates firing one and not the other, so bosses have every reason not to like it. And that goes not only for spouses but also just for friends and relatives. If they have to fire one, they have to risk losing the other too or at least listen to a bunch of drama about it. It's happened that way at my office, the boss's assistant got a friend of hers hired who was a total rude loser who even fell asleep at work once but the boss put off doing anything because of her being the best friend of the assistant. It caused problems for me directly because I was one of the people with the most experience there at the time and it was common to just try to guide newer employees and this girl wouldn't even look up or say anything when I'd talk to her and then she'd immediately get up and march down the hall and tell on me to her friend, the boss's assistant, that I was bugging her. No one dared say anything bad about her and it took forever for him to let her go. I do agree with IRC that the bigger the place is and as long as they're not working in connected jobs, it doesn't cause problems, but that's dependent on being in different areas with all different coworkers.
SomeDude16 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Just try not to "**** where you eat". Know there is a possibility for things to get stinky. 1
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