mystic man Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I have met a girl whom I really like and she has a "boy toy" who doesn't treat her the way she deserves to be treated and I want to tell her how I feel about her but I leave at the end of October and I'll be gone for over a year... So I guess I don't know whether I should wait to tell her or do it now and hope for the best either way. Can someone help me decide what to do?
dichotomy Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 (edited) I have met a girl whom I really like and she has a "boy toy" who doesn't treat her the way she deserves to be treated and I want to tell her how I feel about her but I leave at the end of October and I'll be gone for over a year... So I guess I don't know whether I should wait to tell her or do it now and hope for the best either way. Can someone help me decide what to do? She has a boy toy (I assume F buddy) that says something about her priorities right now (not right or wrong just where she is at)...telling her you like/care/love her and then disappearing for a year - will not make her go "wow really - thats great, let me stop with my F toy for a year and wait for you" At best it will be "wait what?...what I am supposed to do about this?" My best recommendation is to leave her with a teaser - something like looking her in the eyes and saying "your quite a special woman, you deserve the best, I look forward to getting to know you better when I get back next year". This will give her a year to chew on what exactly you mean and what your feelings are. By the time you get back she will either be worked up a bit, or it will be same old. If you keep in contact, dont friend zone her with supportive messages - keep it light and flirty, maybe even tease her about an girl toy you met while your away. Edited September 27, 2014 by dichotomy 1
d0nnivain Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 You are leaving for a year. You are not in a position to start anything so do not say anything now. If she's free when you get back, ask her out.
Rock Chick Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Forget her and find someone without a boy toy if the fact makes you feel uncomfortable. Why are you even remotely interested in a promiscious person anyways?
OwMyEyeball Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Don't say a thing. You're gone for a year. Expressing your feelings now will just be confusing for you and her.
gaius Posted September 28, 2014 Posted September 28, 2014 Embrace your primal side and do whatever your instincts tell you to do.
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