reliablewolf Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Hello, I asked a girl out from a small group I was attending. She said yes! I asked her via text if she wanted to go to the art museum with me (she's into art) and figured it would be a good time for us to talk and get to know each other. So - after she agreed, I asked that same day (yesterday), again via text, if I could call her at 8PM to set up a day/time that would work for both of us. She then replied with - "err, tonight won't work, tomorrow won't either...maybe we can talk Saturday or Sunday?" Um, its a phone call, likely to last only a few minutes, so that I can figure out a date and time for our meet up. What? Later that evening, she sent me a very long Facebook message about a job opening at her work place. So if she had time for that, she clearly had time for a quick call. I'm going to assume that she's not interested. What do you guys think?
Mister Zen Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Ignore her for a week. Then try again. If you get the same response, she is not interested. However, if she is more accommodating.. then she is. I was a PUA in my 20's and I always used this trick to weed out the teases and find the girls with true interest. When they play games.. I totally ignore them for a week. When I return.. the interested ones are so happy to hear from me that they go along with anything. So do that.
Jules Dash Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Call Saturday or Sunday to see if you can get her interested. I would never ask a woman if I can call her at a certain time. Be a bit more aggressive and just call her when you like. Either she is free to talk or not. 1
Author reliablewolf Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 Call Saturday or Sunday to see if you can get her interested. I would never ask a woman if I can call her at a certain time. Be a bit more aggressive and just call her when you like. Either she is free to talk or not. I've soured on the idea of calling, maybe I will - but I hate feeling like I'm the only one interested in doing this. I might as well just go by myself if its such a chore for her. When we see each other at the group every week she clearly tries to sit next to me/talk to me the most - but I guess this isn't high school and that stuff doesn't really matter anymore. I may contact her Sunday - but I can't shake the feeling that I'm going to hit a dead end eventually. Girls want to talk to guys they're interested in, and wouldn't ever delay a phone call for no reason. This "yes doesn't really mean yes I'm just going to find a way out of it later" phenomenon in 2014 is really ****ing frustrating.
Ami1uwant Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 What you did is perfectly normal. You ask about a date then a few days before you want to talk to set up the logistics. Why she couldn't talk....hard to say. She could have been at work at 8pm thus couldn't talk. She could have had plans with someone else. When did she send you the Facebook message? Unsure what was in here but of it was something that came up she could have not been much in the mood to talk. As others have said...wait a few days and give her a call...but don't try to set up a time to call. She doesn't answer leave a message then the ball is in her court.
Ami1uwant Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Another thng to add..... When you talk to her ask her how is Monday? Then if she says no Adkins her how is a different day and f she says no then forget it. If she was interested in you and you suggested a day that truly didn't work she would counter with a day that worked for her.
liove Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 i am a girl and here how i see the situation the girl wants to go out with you (maybe she is not deeply in love with you but if she agreed than she certainly likes you maybe a bit maybe more); if a guy ask me if he can call me: i think he is too nice and desperate and i stop answering (thing i've already done) if a guy ask me to call me to talk about a date: he is thinking about this only and he is desperate (stop answering) so yeah, you seemed desperate. you dont have to make the big logistics for a date you just tell her the location or the hour and that's it. dont do too much! regarding the fact that she refused your call but you received a message from her, means that maybe she was really busy; that message could have been sent to everyone and she might have just worked on that message. so yeah, i think you should ignore her a little bit and see how she reacts but dont do too much of hard to get, not now because obvious you are more into him than she into you so if you play hard to get, you might get dissapoointed
Author reliablewolf Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 What you did is perfectly normal. You ask about a date then a few days before you want to talk to set up the logistics. Why she couldn't talk....hard to say. She could have been at work at 8pm thus couldn't talk. She could have had plans with someone else. When did she send you the Facebook message? Unsure what was in here but of it was something that came up she could have not been much in the mood to talk. As others have said...wait a few days and give her a call...but don't try to set up a time to call. She doesn't answer leave a message then the ball is in her court. The Facebook message I received was at....hmm, I believe 9 or 10PM the same night I was supposed to call. It was about a job opportunity at her work, which makes me wonder if she's just being friendly to me so I can apply for this job and she somehow gets some type of benefit for referring me. I'll try and get in touch with her today or tomorrow, and see what happens. I feel so much more comfortable talking to girls face to face, whenever this cell phone BS comes into play, I feel like that's when everything always gets derailed...
Tayken Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 The Facebook message I received was at....hmm, I believe 9 or 10PM the same night I was supposed to call. It was about a job opportunity at her work, which makes me wonder if she's just being friendly to me so I can apply for this job and she somehow gets some type of benefit for referring me. I'll try and get in touch with her today or tomorrow, and see what happens. I feel so much more comfortable talking to girls face to face, whenever this cell phone BS comes into play, I feel like that's when everything always gets derailed... Ahahahaha...seriously? I won't put it past some people, I mean it's akin to a sales rep in the mall or elsewhere being all friendly / flirty with you just to make a sale. I have never and continue to have some dignity about me when such things happen. I am the exception to the "sex sells" malarkey. Just because you flash your tat-tas at me doesn't mean I sell my soul to the devil. I am sure there is a man down the corridor willing to fall for that nonsense. When am paying for something, I am all business and expect professionalism in return. If I wanted crass, I would go to hooters
waiting4u Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Just call her. This is what made my boyfriend stand out from the other guys I dated - he called, and called back, and called again. Most guys just text. At first I thought he was nuts, but I came around after a bit. I don't understand this modern aversion to actually talking on the telephone . . .
dragonfire13 Posted October 4, 2014 Posted October 4, 2014 That's a bit weird, could be a number of reasons why she's avoiding talking on the phone, but if it helps, it could be something as innocent as her being phone shy - I used to be soooo nervous chatting to guys on the phone, especially in the early stages when you're still getting to know a guy - I'm talking purposely dodging calls until I had the guts to call them back. It wasn't because I wasn't interested, it's because I was nervous and knew I'd say something stupid
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