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Masculine polarity/presence: how confidence attracts women above all.

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Your ego compares and therefore it will always grade your self-image as inferior or superior to the image you create of someone else. Identification with your self-image (ego) therefore leads to feelings of superiority or inferiority. Now there is no doubt that even people who are so wrapped up in ego and in the pursuit of self-image enhancement can still have success with women sometimes, but it DOES disconnect you from being, and thus your masculine polarity. The type of women you will be able to have success with also won’t be all that and they will probably be the kind of women who are also wrapped up in ego and self-image enhancement. They too will be disconnected from their feminine core.

 

Status is double-edged concept in the sense that it does exist and it does show in the subcommunication between people; but it also is a tool that your ego is very likely to use. The status (and subcomunnication) can become a part of your ego structure when you start using it for comparison with others and validation (enhancing your self image). From being (your masculine polarity) you are able to act the same around the CEO or the janitor of the company, because from your core you are equal to anyone. From your core flows self-esteem which is not inferior or superior to anyone. You act the same around a 7 or a 10. Megan Fox or Roseanne Barr.

 

One of the things that clicked a lot deeper for me is that this is why approaching from your masculine polarity is such an empowering way of meeting women and having fun. You surpass superficial values such as really hot women being superior to you.

 

If you approach a woman from your ego, she will either sense superiority or inferiority through your subcommunication. Now this isn’t always bad. There is always a 2% anomaly of women that loves to feel superior or inferior to you from their own ego, so you might have success with those type of women and build some kind of relationship with them. But it will probably bring a ton of bull**** and psychological issues into your life to deal with as well. If you want a woman who is connected to her own being, her own feminine polarity, without psychological issues; you want to be coming from your masculine core.

 

When you approach a woman with your full being, your full masculine polarity; they will sense through the subcommunication that you are not viewing yourself (through your ego) as superior of inferior to her in any way or form. They will not sense or pick up any insecurity of arrogance (= masked insecurity) from the subcommunication you are putting out. You are being authentic and acting from your core. And this turns her on.

 

Now either way, whether you are coming from ego of self-esteem, you will be likely to fluctuate. Very few people are enlightened all the time and there is nothing wrong with that. If women sense inferiority or superiority through your subcommunication you will be tested.

 

The test is to feel if beneath the surface you are connected to your masculine polarity, being, self-esteem. And so, the test is a signal for you to get your proverbial **** together. (Note: she may also just test you if she feels a very strong masculine polarity, just to see if it's REAL). If you do and thereby usually pass the test this will attract her feminine polarity to the surface. She will be able to connect more deeply to her feminine polarity and losing her own ego in the process. You are offering a TON of value in this way and this will make her panties swim.

 

You are being a FREE man. Free of constraints, free of fear, free of wanting an outcome, free of your ego.

 

Now don’t set the bar so high that you can always be free of ego or lose it in an instant. It’s a way to perfectionistic goal and again; it is easily used by the ego to judge yourself. Small chunk the process when you are out. Just start getting the reference experiences of this phenomenon. Let it seep into your reality. Discover it, play with it, have fun with it.

 

Masculine polarity is all about FREEDOM. First you look for freedom outside yourself, in the world. Then you try to gain freedom from inside yourself. Eventually you realize you ARE freedom. It is your true nature as a man. You cannot get what you already are, so you stop seeking.

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That was a good read.

 

This type of information is a life long journey of trying to hone and own your own being.

 

Best books similar to presence and self learning/enlightenment...

 

The Mastery of Love - Don Miguel Ruiz

The 4 Agreements - Don Miguel Ruiz

The Power Of Now - Eckhart Tolle

 

Any other good reads people have come across?

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I gain a lot of freedom and joy by being self-employed. Leaving my front door in the morning, breathing in the fresh air and knowing that all that takes place that day will be my doing alone, free from strict timetables, bosses and the drama that comes from a big company.

 

That feels my mind and soul with freedom.

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Your ego compares and therefore it will always grade your self-image as inferior or superior to the image you create of someone else. Identification with your self-image (ego) therefore leads to feelings of superiority or inferiority. Now there is no doubt that even people who are so wrapped up in ego and in the pursuit of self-image enhancement can still have success with women sometimes, but it DOES disconnect you from being, and thus your masculine polarity. The type of women you will be able to have success with also won’t be all that and they will probably be the kind of women who are also wrapped up in ego and self-image enhancement. They too will be disconnected from their feminine core.

 

Status is double-edged concept in the sense that it does exist and it does show in the subcommunication between people; but it also is a tool that your ego is very likely to use. The status (and subcomunnication) can become a part of your ego structure when you start using it for comparison with others and validation (enhancing your self image). From being (your masculine polarity) you are able to act the same around the CEO or the janitor of the company, because from your core you are equal to anyone. From your core flows self-esteem which is not inferior or superior to anyone. You act the same around a 7 or a 10. Megan Fox or Roseanne Barr.

 

One of the things that clicked a lot deeper for me is that this is why approaching from your masculine polarity is such an empowering way of meeting women and having fun. You surpass superficial values such as really hot women being superior to you.

 

If you approach a woman from your ego, she will either sense superiority or inferiority through your subcommunication. Now this isn’t always bad. There is always a 2% anomaly of women that loves to feel superior or inferior to you from their own ego, so you might have success with those type of women and build some kind of relationship with them. But it will probably bring a ton of bull**** and psychological issues into your life to deal with as well. If you want a woman who is connected to her own being, her own feminine polarity, without psychological issues; you want to be coming from your masculine core.

 

When you approach a woman with your full being, your full masculine polarity; they will sense through the subcommunication that you are not viewing yourself (through your ego) as superior of inferior to her in any way or form. They will not sense or pick up any insecurity of arrogance (= masked insecurity) from the subcommunication you are putting out. You are being authentic and acting from your core. And this turns her on.

 

Now either way, whether you are coming from ego of self-esteem, you will be likely to fluctuate. Very few people are enlightened all the time and there is nothing wrong with that. If women sense inferiority or superiority through your subcommunication you will be tested.

 

The test is to feel if beneath the surface you are connected to your masculine polarity, being, self-esteem. And so, the test is a signal for you to get your proverbial **** together. (Note: she may also just test you if she feels a very strong masculine polarity, just to see if it's REAL). If you do and thereby usually pass the test this will attract her feminine polarity to the surface. She will be able to connect more deeply to her feminine polarity and losing her own ego in the process. You are offering a TON of value in this way and this will make her panties swim.

 

You are being a FREE man. Free of constraints, free of fear, free of wanting an outcome, free of your ego.

 

Now don’t set the bar so high that you can always be free of ego or lose it in an instant. It’s a way to perfectionistic goal and again; it is easily used by the ego to judge yourself. Small chunk the process when you are out. Just start getting the reference experiences of this phenomenon. Let it seep into your reality. Discover it, play with it, have fun with it.

 

Masculine polarity is all about FREEDOM. First you look for freedom outside yourself, in the world. Then you try to gain freedom from inside yourself. Eventually you realize you ARE freedom. It is your true nature as a man. You cannot get what you already are, so you stop seeking.

 

I am totally free of ego and hate the word 'league'. If I can communicate well with a woman, I feel we would be a good match , end of. I only take in her beauty once I've learnt her personality :)

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Yes, the book by Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now is a good read. You can only truly care about someone if you don't care about them at all. It's just like life. You have to not care and not worry in order to enjoy life for what it is. Meditation works very well for realizing your true self and developing an unshakable sense of well being. Women have ego loss as well but for them it's not in the form of competition/getting rid of/freedom, it's the exact opposite. Women want fullness, emotion. Their true nature is that they ARE love incarnate. They are the manifested, all the chaos, all the ambiguity. A man whose not very self actualized would see her drama as a pain in the ass and would try to make her more like him. The opposite is also true. Your woman sees you laying on the couch doing nothing and she will yell at you because she doesn't understand how a normal male functions. If men are meant to be detached from everything only driven by purpose and women are meant to be attached to everything driven by emotion, does that mean that both are incompatible? No, in fact they need to learn how to coexist.

 

As cliche as it sounds, the man is supposed to be the rock, the anchor and the woman is supposed to be the storm, the chaos. However, society conditions people to deny their true nature so then people end up suppressing who they really are. Men suppress their freedom in fear of being judged as *******s. The result? They end up seeking freedom in a wrong way such as rape. Instead, if the man did not suppress his freedom, then it would be infused with love. He would never rape a woman, instead he would make her feel deeply desired.

 

Men are supposed to be "in touch" with their emotions, not "emotional". Big difference. He can't take anything too serious because it will stifle his purpose, his mission, what he's on earth to accomplish.

 

I would describe masculine energy as no thought, no emotion, emptiness, pure consciousness, stillness and feminine energy as motion, fullness, chaotic.

 

In most relationships here's how it plays out:

 

Man: Nothing has ever happened

Woman: Something has always happened

Man: Nothing has ever happened

Woman: Something has always happened

 

they end up getting frustrated at each other because they want the other to be more like themselves until eventually both are in their opposite polarities now and there is no more attraction so they break it off because they won't embrace their differences.

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quidproquo89 Established Member

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your a deep person, :). Its all about perspective, knowledge and learning from experience - when it comes to dating, work and relationships with people on whatever level.

 

I've made so many mistakes in my life, I try to not do the same one twice

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Cristo Established Member

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This sounds like PUA-type mental masturbation to me.

 

All well and good on paper, but not true in the real world. Leagues definitely do exist and "masculine polarity" really doesn't mean all that much if the girl doesn't find you physically attractive.

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Fascinating read. Some questions:

 

Are all men masculine and all women feminine?

 

Are masculinity and femininity fixed traits or does each individual have a mix of these "energies" that slides along a gradient?

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I am totally free of ego and hate the word 'league'. If I can communicate well with a woman, I feel we would be a good match , end of. I only take in her beauty once I've learnt her personality :)

What do you mean by being "totally free of ego"?

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