renoi Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 I broke up with my ex in november 2013. We didn't talk for 7 months. Recently we got back in touch after she broke up with the guy she was dating and they tried unsuccessfully to have a baby. I was dating around but I decided that I wasn't going to get into another relationship for at least a year. we were just talking, neither of us brought the the idea of getting back together, but we were texting, talking on the phone and we went out once to a comedy show three weeks ago. Last week end I was up there to help her move into her new apartment, she was sick so I did almost all the moving and cleaning by myself. She was putting stuff up when I brought them to her new place using her car. Everything was going fine. I came there friday to start helping and by saturday afternoon everything was moved in to her new place. She cooked, let me stay the night fri and sat, we didn't do anything sexual at all ever since we got back in touch, although when i was there fri and sat she had no issue walking naked around the house. Sunday, she sent me to the store to get some stuff for a birthday dinner she was making for her lil brother who was coming over to celebrate his 22nd birthday. First time I went to the store I got everything with the exception of butter. she was annoyed I was there for a while, I didn't know some of the stuff on the list and some of the stuff she wanted the store didn't have. She wasn't doing anything at home, she could have came with me there, and I think most of what I am about to type next would have been avoided. When I got home with the groceries, she had the front door open but the screen door was locked to let some air come into the house, so I knocked on the screen door she heard me, came and opened the door. She started cooking and then realized I forgot butter, I went back to the store again and got it, this time when i get home and knocked on the screen door, she hears me, she sees me from the kitchen, makes a step forward, and says you have to ring the door bell for me to come open the door while smiling. I thought she was joking at first, she wanted me to ring the bell so she can gloat about how nice her new place is. She went back to the kitchen. I waited five min and still nothing. I felt it was ridiculous for me to ring the door bell once you know it is me after I already knocked on the door and you saw me. I got very annoyed especially after I kept knocking and I heard her talking on the phone. It was almost 90 degrees outside yesterday, it was hot, I have been running in and out of the house running errands for her all day and I was also a bit tired for all the work I did the past two days helping her out, I don't want the butter to start melting and I just wanted to come inside unwind before I left to go back to my own house( she was supposed to take me back home yesterday, my sister dropped me off on friday and since she goes to school she was using the car). There was a possibility that I was going to have to take her car and go get her brother since his car broke down when he was on the way to her house. So I kept banging on the door for at least 15 min, at this point I was super pissed, so I got back into her car, drove around the block to cool down and get away from the sun. She sent me a text messsage saying, if anything happens to her car I'll go to jail and that all I need to do is ring the door bell and that I am silly and stubborn and still the same. I was so upset by the cheer audacity and entitlement of the text message that I replied "**** you". I came back to her place again, she is on the phone she heard me knock and still wouldn't come, I refused to use the door bell it is not until I started banging on the door loudly that she came and opened the door. she was mad, then she saw my text message and said ok you need to find a way to get home, ( I live about 45 min from there) I was so mad that I told her that she was acting like a bitch. I packed my stuff while cursing her out, left and called my sis to come get me, on the way out I did say I hope she never has kids,knowing her fertility issues. I was so pissed and angry. She was saying it was all about the principles, you don't come to somebody's front door and not use the door bell. it is not like I entered without knocking. What diff does it make if I knocked or used the bell instead. it achieves the same purpose to let you know that someone is at the door and given the fact that the front door was open but the screen door was closed and you saw it was me at the door all the way from the kitchen, why do I have to now use the door bell when you have already acknowledged my presence?So I am a stranger now??? What is so different between the first time I came back home from the store and the second time? It was the exact same scenario. I even would have understood if the second time she opened the door when she saw me and said can you please ring the bell next time cause I rather you do that than knock on the door, I would have understood. I could perfectly understand her point if both door were closed and you couldn't see who was knocking. her door doesn't have a peep hole where you can see who is either knocking or using the bell, and to then tell me I'll go to jail and she almost called the police. So I was good enough to help you move out of your house using your car and running errands around town with your car and if anything happened to the car then it wouldn't have been a problem but the moment I take the car around the corner and go around the block over some silliness she started when I rushed home from the store with some stuff you needed urgently to make the cake for your brother, now I am threatened with possible jail. I later sent her a text message saying she deserved anything bad that happened to her so far in life and I was glad we are officially through. she later sent me a text message saying she appreciated that I helped her and wouldn't stand being disrespected in her own house and was going to pray for me to get my act together. We broke up the first time because I called her a bitch after an argument and I wouldn't apologize for it a few days later and she left me stranded at walmart, 20 miles from home. I laughed it off, sent her a long text message telling her to lose my number . That's that then. Was I wrong for not ringing the bell? I know I was wrong for the children thing. I did apologize for that in my last test, but everything else I said including calling her a bitch, I stand by it. I think I dodged a big bullet on this one. Lesson learned there for me, I think i am too nice of a guy. I should start being a bit selfish. Excuse my English guys.
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 The whole thing was insanely overly dramatic. While I agree that after everything else, expecting you to ring the bell was dumb, all of the BS would have been avoided if you did that. She was teasing but then when you started banging & getting angry I wouldn't have let you in either.
CarrieT Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 You were not wrong for not ringing the bell. She was being manipulative. Move on and stop being the nice guy... 1
Chi townD Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Yeah, that was childish and a simple way for her to tell herself that she has control over you. Walk away from bat sh*t crazy. That's a good rule to follow. 1
mightycpa Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 (edited) I broke up with my ex in november 2013. We didn't talk for 7 months. Recently we got back in touch after she broke up with the guy she was dating and they tried unsuccessfully to have a baby. I was dating around but I decided that I wasn't going to get into another relationship for at least a year. we were just talking, neither of us brought the the idea of getting back together, but we were texting, talking on the phone and we went out once to a comedy show three weeks ago. Last week end I was up there to help her move into her new apartment, she was sick so I did almost all the moving and cleaning by myself. She was putting stuff up when I brought them to her new place using her car. Everything was going fine. Nope. Everything was not going fine.She treated you like her little gay bitch ex boyfriend slave. Not only were you completely friendzoned, you acted like her hired help. Let's keep reading: I came there friday to start helping and by saturday afternoon everything was moved in to her new place. She cooked, let me stay the night fri and sat, we didn't do anything sexual at all ever since we got back in touch, although when i was there fri and sat she had no issue walking naked around the house. There's the "gay bitch" part, by the way. Let's see how she thanks you for your help: Sunday, she sent me to the store to get some stuff for a birthday dinner she was making for her lil brother who was coming over to celebrate his 22nd birthday. First time I went to the store I got everything with the exception of butter. she was annoyed I was there for a while, I didn't know some of the stuff on the list and some of the stuff she wanted the store didn't have. She wasn't doing anything at home,That's enough... Any idea why you reacted to her bull**** that way? I'll tell you why... you were getting fed up with this ****. You were following her around like a little puppy, worrying that some guy couldn't knock her up, no matter how many times and ways he tried to, and also going with her to the comedy clubs, and doing her heavy lifting for her, all the while being treated like ****. Instead of making you a "thank you dinner" or treating you to a "thank you bl*wj*b", she sends you off to do her grocery shopping so that she can appreciate somebody else, and then gets annoyed at you for taking too long. After you came back the second time, she played friggin' games with you. Long story short, you reached the end of your fuse and blew up. That is a hopeful sign. There is a man inside you, just itching to bust out of the gay bitch costume you've been wearing. That's not you. Take it off and get rid of it. After that, she blamed you for the whole thing. Shame on you for even getting involved in all that ****. Shame on her for treating you that way. Shame on you if you ever talk, text or even look at her again, because now you've been shown who you are to her. Move on mon ami, and count your lucky stars! Edited September 26, 2014 by mightycpa 1
Author renoi Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Nope. Everything was not going fine.She treated you like her little gay bitch ex boyfriend slave. Not only were you completely friendzoned, you acted like her hired help. Let's keep reading: There's the "gay bitch" part, by the way. Let's see how she thanks you for your help: That's enough... Any idea why you reacted to her bull**** that way? I'll tell you why... you were getting fed up with this ****. You were following her around like a little puppy, worrying that some guy couldn't knock her up, no matter how many times and ways he tried to, and also going with her to the comedy clubs, and doing her heavy lifting for her, all the while being treated like ****. Instead of making you a "thank you dinner" or treating you to a "thank you bl*wj*b", she sends you off to do her grocery shopping so that she can appreciate somebody else, and then gets annoyed at you for taking too long. After you came back the second time, she played friggin' games with you. Long story short, you reached the end of your fuse and blew up. That is a hopeful sign. There is a man inside you, just itching to bust out of the gay bitch costume you've been wearing. That's not you. Take it off and get rid of it. After that, she blamed you for the whole thing. Shame on you for even getting involved in all that ****. Shame on her for treating you that way. Shame on you if you ever talk, text or even look at her again, because now you've been shown who you are to her. Move on mon ami, and count your lucky stars! Bravo!! This is really good medicine I needed to hear and you are absolutely right. I was acting like a bitch. Cutting her off for good was the right thing. I learned my lesson. Thanks for being brutally honest. 1
Elle1975 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Delete her number, block her, change your phone number, move to a new place, and change your job.. because she is nothing but bad news.
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