Women Not Texting Back to a Direct Question.....Highly Irritating

[Gaeta]

Tell me what she does exactly that makes you believe she likes you in that way?

 

Let me tell you something. I am the type of woman that smiles a lot, at everybody.

 

At my office building I was always super nice and smiling at the parking attendant. Sometimes he'd give me a compliment, I'd smile and say thank you. I was just being polite and nice because it's my personality!! Well this gentleman got into his head that I liked him MORE and he started to obsess about me. So much I started hiding from him and stopped driving my car to work to avoid him. He STILL continued to obsess over those smiles I had given him till the day I had to give him a FULL blown rejection.

 

You are like this parking attendant. You misinterpreted her kindness as interest, it's NOT.

[BlueIris]

So you don't think there is a possibility she wants to know if I'm serious about her or just have a short-term crush? I've had now several girls play hard to get initially to see how serious I am about them before starting to reply to me mutually. Yes, girls that approached me and initiated with me were the ones that also initiated texts and conversations, but this is not the case here.

 

There is about a 2-3 year age difference and difference in family status- she has a baby.

 

I am an optimist and so I'll give it another try in a week and give her a call. If I again don't hear of her, she's too immature and troubled for me to involve with. And her baby surely doesn't need to be my problem.

 

Her interest in you is irrelevant. The way you view her is enough for you to stop pursuing her. I would be horrified if a man pursuing me thought and said such things about me. And, no, the point isn't that you should conceal it. The point is that it is WRONG to pursue someone that you think and speak of in this way.

[Maleficent]

So, nobody seriously likes you?

 

Yeah, that's totally what I said

 

No wonder you're not getting the hints she isn't interested...

[mrgoodcat]

Tell me what she does exactly that makes you believe she likes you in that way?

 

Let me tell you something. I am the type of woman that smiles a lot, at everybody.

 

At my office building I was always super nice and smiling at the parking attendant. Sometimes he'd give me a compliment, I'd smile and say thank you. I was just being polite and nice because it's my personality!! Well this gentleman got into his head that I liked him MORE and he started to obsess about me. So much I started hiding from him and stopped driving my car to work to avoid him. He STILL continued to obsess over those smiles I had given him till the day I had to give him a FULL blown rejection.

 

You are like this parking attendant. You misinterpreted her kindness as interest, it's NOT.

 

Yes, because I'm a parking attendant. LOL I think as long as you're a parking attendant you shouldn't consider anything women say to you as a serious sign other then trying to get their car on time.

 

Two instances I already mentioned. She looks back at me when she doesn't have to. She wants to see if I'm looking. And the other time when a lady came over to pick something up from me, she looked pissed as I was talking to this lady in the car. She didn't even say hi, when I waived to her and she always does. That's probably how I would feel if I saw her with another guy. I don't think she's indifferent to me at very least.

 

 

And so, you still cannot answer how she is supposed to vet guys who want to get with her. Who is genuine or who is another scumbag like her ****ty ex-husband. She had a broken heart- if my timing is right, I think her hubby cheated on her just after she had a baby. That's a painful blow.

 

 

So, I guess that's one more thing I had that you don't. Feedback.

 

I'm not going to say you're wrong, but you are facing some serious uphill.

 

It's not Mount Everest but it is a Mount Makala for sure. I like this girl enought to pursue further.

Edited September 27, 2014 by mrgoodcat

[haribogumsnickers]

In the world of texting, some questions go unanswered. I've learned to accept and expect nothing especially with females of potential interest. No reply just means no. Can't hate just shake it off cuz heartbreakers gonna break, break, break...

[mrgoodcat]

Her interest in you is irrelevant. The way you view her is enough for you to stop pursuing her. I would be horrified if a man pursuing me thought and said such things about me. And, no, the point isn't that you should conceal it. The point is that it is WRONG to pursue someone that you think and speak of in this way.

 

 

I'm a very caring person about people who are important to me. If she doesn't want to even get back to me, that it is in her interest that I lose all the interest in her. Isn't that the point if that's what she wants? Actually, her young boy always gets excited to see me, even before I brought him toys- it's very adorable and sweet to see. I'm not a kid's person, but I think this boy has his mom's personality.

 

And so you, like all the other feministas on here, ignore to tell me how she is supposed to vet me to see if I'm into her, all in the context of having been cheated on and making sure I'm there not just to fool around. Please, tell me what would be your approach in this situation.

[heartshaped]

I see this as simple.

 

If I liked you, I would talk to you.

 

If I didn't like you, I wouldn't talk to you.

 

The only reason I wouldn't respond if I did like you would be because I was busy or in a relationship. And even then I would get back to you.

 

No response equals no interest.

 

I don't think any sane person thinks to themselves, "hey let me not respond to see how serious a person is about me."

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm a very caring person about people who are important to me. If she doesn't want to even get back to me, that it is in her interest that I lose all the interest in her. Isn't that the point if that's what she wants? Actually, her young boy always gets excited to see me, even before I brought him toys- it's very adorable and sweet to see. I'm not a kid's person, but I think this boy has his mom's personality.

 

And so you, like all the other feministas on here, ignore to tell me how she is supposed to vet me to see if I'm into her, all in the context of having been cheated on and making sure I'm there not just to fool around. Please, tell me what would be your approach in this situation.

 

She already did. She decided it wasn't right for her. You just haven't accepted it yet.

[Gaeta]

 

Two instances I already mentioned. She looks back at me when she doesn't have to. She wants to see if I'm looking. And the other time when a lady came over to pick something up from me, she looked pissed as I was talking to this lady in the car. She didn't even say hi, when I waived to her and she always does. That's probably how I would feel if I saw her with another guy. I don't think she's indifferent to me at very least.

 

OR....

 

She looks your way because she is afraid you will walk toward her. She is making sure if you head her way she will have time to get away. Her not waving at you is confirming this. BEFORE she would wave at you but your insistence on text when she does not even reply to you has convinced her to not wave back at you any longer.

[mrgoodcat]

I see this as simple.

 

If I liked you, I would talk to you.

 

If I didn't like you, I wouldn't talk to you.

 

The only reason I wouldn't respond if I did like you would be because I was busy or in a relationship. And even then I would get back to you.

 

No response equals no interest.

 

I don't think any sane person thinks to themselves, "hey let me not respond to see how serious a person is about me."

 

 

Yes, but you haven't been married, cheated on or have a kid. I assume.

 

 

OR....

 

She looks your way because she is afraid you will walk toward her. She is making sure if you head her way she will have time to get away. Her not waving at you is confirming this. BEFORE she would wave at you but your insistence on text when she does not even reply to you has convinced her to not wave back at you any longer.

 

 

Well, thanks for letting me know not to take you seriously. I bet you have hard time with guys?

 

Yes, when my sister's husband and I are working on my car in broad daylight with cameras everywhere she's afraid I'll rush towards her because in the past 3 years I never did.

 

The trolling on here is outrageous. I sense there are a lot of rejected chicks on here who hate on guys cause no one likes them.

Edited September 27, 2014 by mrgoodcat

[ExpatInItaly]

I've just gone back and read your other thread about her. Dude, it's painfully obvious she's not interested. It's not her playing hard to get. The sooner you realize that, the sooner you can move on to women who are showing real signs of interest. I know you will refute this and get defensive, but I don't know what else to add. Leave her alone.

 

Also, I caught this in your other thread:

I'm no stalker, but I would even consider paying my buddy to do some spying for me to save me any time and heartache if I suspect she is playing me while dating someone else.

 

[Gaeta]

Yes, but you haven't been married, cheated on or have a kid. I assume.

 

Well, thanks for letting me know not to take you seriously. I bet you have hard time with guys?

 

Yes, when my sister's husband and I are working on my car in broad daylight with cameras everywhere she's afraid I'll rush towards her because in the past 3 years I never did.

 

The trolling on here is outrageous. I sense there are a lot of rejected chicks on here who hate on guys cause no one likes them.

 

hahaha c'mon! I was showing you that her behavior may be interpreted in many ways, not just what you want it to be. A woman looking toward a man does not mean she is interested in him at 100% there are many other reasons why a woman would do that. You see it as an interest on her part because that is what you wish.

[mrgoodcat]

hahaha c'mon! I was showing you that her behavior may be interpreted in many ways, not just what you want it to be. A woman looking toward a man does not mean she is interested in him at 100% there are many other reasons why a woman would do that. You see it as an interest on her part because that is what you wish.

 

You were mocking when I was citing a direct example of her interest or at least being flattered by me liking her. A lot of people are saying she's not interested, but I'll let her further actions speak for it. Like I said, so many people were dead-arse-over-heals wrong about another girl I posted on here, claiming she didn't really like me blah blah. Same ish over again on here. I'm a reasonably solid 7/10 guy who has a very bright future and already fairly set as far as money goes(I'd like to be more set, but I'll get there before 30, hopefully).

 

So comparing me to some ugly valet guy with no future is a bit of a stretch.

 

 

Also, I caught this in your other thread:

I'm no stalker, but I would even consider paying my buddy to do some spying for me to save me any time and heartache if I suspect she is playing me while dating someone else.

 

My time is my most precious resource. Money isn't an object in such cases. If I'm serious about someone, I'll invest few hundred bucks to find out if my time is worth investing or I'm being jacked off. This is like legal insider trading....should I be choosing in or out. I wouldn't go to these lengths for most women, but that's because women I hook up with ask me out, as I mentioned earlier.

Edited September 27, 2014 by mrgoodcat

[GemmaUK]

Well, my descriptions have been not acute to the readership here, because apparently everyone is a psychologist without a degree.I never "stared" like a psycho.....what I consider staring is a gaze that is just a bit longer than I usually grant hot women I see. I don't stare at women in public, I'm not that guy that sees a hot girl walk buy and has to check out her butt. I often intentionally control my urges to look at a lady because I don't want to be like that other douche who couldn't help himself. I'm very reserved, so what I consider staring would probably just qualify as "just barely showing interest". I am good looking enough that I never had to ask women out- they did it for me. Typically I know a girl likes me if she stares at me frequently and mimics my gestures. If I talk to her she responds eagerly. I know she likes me. Only two girls that I went out with the going out part was mutual or initiated by me. This is my third, so I don't have a lot of experience. So, all the over dozen or so dating experiences I had were initiated by girls who liked me and they were at least as good looking as this young lady, albeit more of my age. I can definitely tell when a girl likes me. I think this girl likes me or liked me, since my shenanigans may have turned her off.

What nobody cares to explain to me is how this young lady with a child is planning on eliminating guys with fake intentions? What would be her vetting process to tell if someone just wants to get in her pants? I think this is where I have to get past for her to take me seriously.Keep in mind she's dealt with infidelity that ruined her marriage, allegedly.

 

You didn't answer any of my actual questions in your response.

 

The way someone eliminates is by dating them and getting to know them, seeing what their behaviour is like along with what they say.

For the dating to happen they need to want to date that man. If a woman wants to date a man she will reply to texts and will agree to dates.

It might be that she doesn't want to date anyone at all if the ex relationship is still pretty fresh.

 

As for where you have mentioned that it's going to be awkward if you see her around and she hasn't responded to you - she doesn't care about that or she would have responded to all of your texts.

[ktya]

Got to be one of the worst things women do. I don't care if some woman and I hook up or not, but not returned text is one of the rudest things. Even a mellow lie or a harsh "I don't like you" beats total ignore on the text. Answering is polite. Like Nike's lame tag line goes, just "f*%king do it".

 

Ladies, stay classy and answer the guy you are not interested in.

 

Totally!

 

I connected with this chick on Tinder who did the same thing. Gave me her number, we texted back and forth, lined up a date for after work drinks downtown after she got off work at 6:15. I was working from home that day so at 2:30 I texted her to see if we were all good. No answer. I texted her at 5:30 pm to confirm the date and see if she had a place in mind near her work, thinking that maybe she was busy at work and my text got lost in the shuffle. Nothing back at all.

 

Good thing I didn't go downtown to meet up with the btch. A simple, "I've changed my mind about the date, sorry" would have potentially saved me a wasted hour of my life in 2 seconds of her time. Have a little class.

[mrgoodcat]

You didn't answer any of my actual questions in your response.

 

The way someone eliminates is by dating them and getting to know them, seeing what their behaviour is like along with what they say.

For the dating to happen they need to want to date that man. If a woman wants to date a man she will reply to texts and will agree to dates.

It might be that she doesn't want to date anyone at all if the ex relationship is still pretty fresh.

 

As for where you have mentioned that it's going to be awkward if you see her around and she hasn't responded to you - she doesn't care about that or she would have responded to all of your texts.

 

I guess concept of women playing hard to get doesn't exist. I think her time is pretty valuable to her so she may not want to go on a date with every guy showing interest in her. Maybe she wants to see who is serious about her. Maybe she doesn't like me at all(which would be helluva surprising to me) or maybe she doesn't know if I'm serious.

[Tayken]

hahaha c'mon! I was showing you that her behavior may be interpreted in many ways, not just what you want it to be. A woman looking toward a man does not mean she is interested in him at 100% there are many other reasons why a woman would do that. You see it as an interest on her part because that is what you wish.

 

 

True....wishing her bf/husband

 

- dressed the same way

- had the same sense of humour / intelligence

- eloquent

- charisma

- physique

- success

 

or she is just plain day dreaming

[mrgoodcat]

True....wishing her bf/husband

 

- dressed the same way

- had the same sense of humour / intelligence

- eloquent

- charisma

- physique

- success

 

or she is just plain day dreaming

 

Well, she kicked out her husband and apparently not dating (according to sources).

 

Maybe she was just nice to me...who knows. I'll find out within the next two-three weeks. If she turns down any invitation for lunch/coffee or doesn't return my calls(no more text messaging) I will know I've probably misread something, which doesn't happen too often.

[Tayken]

Well, she kicked out her husband and apparently not dating (according to sources).

 

Maybe she was just nice to me...who knows. I'll find out within the next two-three weeks. If she turns down any invitation for lunch/coffee or doesn't return my calls(no more text messaging) I will know I've probably misread something, which doesn't happen too often.

 

 

And this doesn't bother you that at some point this could be a case of deja vu i.e. chews you up and spits you out?

 

If you are going to go down that rabbit hole, just make sure you don't get sucked in.

[ExpatInItaly]

Totally!

 

I connected with this chick on Tinder who did the same thing. Gave me her number, we texted back and forth, lined up a date for after work drinks downtown after she got off work at 6:15. I was working from home that day so at 2:30 I texted her to see if we were all good. No answer. I texted her at 5:30 pm to confirm the date and see if she had a place in mind near her work, thinking that maybe she was busy at work and my text got lost in the shuffle. Nothing back at all.

 

Good thing I didn't go downtown to meet up with the btch. A simple, "I've changed my mind about the date, sorry" would have potentially saved me a wasted hour of my life in 2 seconds of her time. Have a little class.

 

The difference in this case is that the woman in question already turned down OP's invitation. (He gives the backstory in another thread)

 

In your case, yes, I would absolutely agree that the woman was rude. She could've done the respectful thing and let you know she wasn't interested anymore.

[mrgoodcat]

And this doesn't bother you that at some point this could be a case of deja vu i.e. chews you up and spits you out?

 

If you are going to go down that rabbit hole, just make sure you don't get sucked in.

 

According to reliable sources, he cheated on her and she found out on his FB page. I think I saw her around the time when she must have found out and she didn't look good then. Just looked much older, skinnier, and sad. I felt bad, but didn't know what was the problem.

 

Unlike all the female yappers on here who completely ignore this factor, I think this is my biggest thing to overcome if there is anything for me to overcome at this point. I don't know. I think she is courteous enough to shut me down over text, especially over those retarded once, but she just didn't reply, which is ok too. She can ignore me for another one contact, and if I get nothing on my 4th contact, I know this is no test at this point and I've struck out or never was considered for the job.