Jessica84 Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 So he's a total gym rat, very fit and attractive but I don't get him at all. He's extremely cold but hot at the same time. It's as if he's with me but not really with me. Here's how some of our conversations went: Him: Waddup fancy face. Me: Do you say this to all the girls? Him: Yes, every single one of them. Me: You're stupid if you think that makes you cool Him: My mom says it's what makes me special. Me: You're pathetic Him: Hey do you hear that? It's the b!ch alarm. Me: Yea I'm a b!ch what about it Him: I like it, I want some more of this fire. I recently told him my ex and I had sex and that I have some feelings for him and here's what he said: "You should of counted me in for a threesome, how could you be so selfish? I thought you cared about me." I also told him that I was sick of his attitude and told him he's ugly since he puts a lot of emphasis on his looks and here's what he responded: "Yes, I'm very ugly. My face kind of looks like someone took a dump on it while I hit every branch on the way down." I told him, "Dude why are you still talking to me?" He said, "Because I want you. I miss you like the deserts miss the rain." I don't understand this guy! I don't get how he stays happy no matter what. I even called him out on faking it and he said that he's been fake since 2 years old. He doesn't get jealous at anything and STILL likes me. If there is something he doesn't want to here, he simply just doesn't hear it. He claims that real love is "the love of the loveless" where he only loves me because he loves himself. I've never heard of anything like this. He told me that he is better than everyone else because everyone else is better than him, what does that even mean? I also called him out on being a player and he said that I am a player for calling him a player. I told him to grow up and he replied, "I'll grow up as soon as I can, it's just that my mom dropped me on my head when I was a baby." It's as if we fight and argue a lot but he doesn't take any of it personally or means what he says gets a kick out of it.
Arieswoman Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Jessica84, This is a "conversation", really ? Him: Waddup fancy face. Me: Do you say this to all the girls? Him: Yes, every single one of them. Me: You're stupid if you think that makes you cool Him: My mom says it's what makes me special. Me: You're pathetic Him: Hey do you hear that? It's the b!ch alarm. Me: Yea I'm a b!ch what about it Him: I like it, I want some more of this fire. I must be missing something here.
Author Jessica84 Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 We're 22 and it's part of a conversation.
ascendotum Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 So when are you going to sleep with him do you reckon? (or have you already passed that point) 3
Author Jessica84 Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 So when are you going to sleep with him do you reckon? (or have you already passed that point) We already did and while we were in bed he told me to call my ex and tell him how much I love him.
angel.eyes Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 (edited) Hopefully you were smart enough not to do that! Brace yourself for a bumpy ride. How many guys have you dated? Edited September 26, 2014 by angel.eyes
Author Jessica84 Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 A few days ago he proposed that we should sleep again for my ex boyfriend so that we can get over each other faster so I can get back with my ex. To be honest I find it funny but what's funnier is that he actually believes in what he says.
angel.eyes Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Unfortunately, he doesn't believe what he's telling you. Only you do. This guy is playing uu like a fiddle! That's why he blows hot and cold. 1
ascendotum Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 We already did and while we were in bed he told me to call my ex and tell him how much I love him. lol. I like his spirit. He's playing with your emotions. You are getting a bit of a roller coaster ride and finding his attitude weird but totally intrigued along with the gym honed body and over the top confidence. He knows he's hot stuff and the is getting a kick out of your insults and plays along with the phoney self depreciating remarks. He is not sucking up to you like so many other guys. He knows its not the way to go and doesn't have to anyway, since chances are he wont have too much trouble finding other girls to hookup with. You are playing along but not falling for him, so its working nicely for him. 3
quidproquo89 Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 he sounds like an awful person quite frankly. Childish and arrogant. 2
Assasda Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 He understands you. Thats basically it. He knows that you want him, and you cant do anything abou tthat 1
yololin Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 How old are you? that is what i wanted to ask as well. What he says is neither witty nor smart. Is English even his first language? For you to dig what he says, you either are 14 or you are blindly infatuated. Emphasis on blindly. I wouldn't call what you guys have as a conversation. It's like reading a beavis and butt head script. I take that back. Beavis and butthead is smarter. Basically. He doesn't give a crap about you. To the point where he doesn't even care about replying coherently. Just jump back on my dick already and shut the hell up -is what he is thinking.
Author Jessica84 Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 Today I told him while at his apartment that we can't talk anymore and that he doesn't care about me. His response was, "I do care about you but since you said that I don't, now I don't care about you anymore." I told him he's mean and I started crying, he came towards me and grabbed the sides of my face saying, "How does it feel? You'll live." I got kind of turned on by then and then we had sex again at his place. Now I look back on it and I can't believe that he got away with it again, I hate him. I find that I'm the one calling and texting him all the time. I told him that he's using me and he said that I'm the one using him instead and he's tired of feeling so vulnerable and being treated like a piece of meat.
Dontfindme Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I'm sorry, but this sounds like both of you are acting out parts in an awful Harlequin novel. Unfortunately, this is real life - so, if you're expecting to tame the bad boy...Good luck!
NJ123 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Don't worry, this is just the beginning. This is probably the fourth gym related on one just the first page of threads. You'll learn to become a fairly selective poster real quick. lol most likely. And yeah, a lot of gym rats are a-holes so it's no surprise so many come on here to bitch about how they got treated like ****.
ses Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 (edited) Amen. I'm a woman, and these are my thoughts exactly. You're letting him disrespect you and get away with it. Call him out on his s***. I'm sure it will do wonders for your self-esteem. Stop pursuing guys who have no interest in you other than an easy lay (unless you want it casual) and walk the walk. I would say the same thing if this were a guy in this situation being played by a girl. Grow some balls and don't give a f. Treat it as his loss and move on. Edited September 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Cristo Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Yeah, I'm not angry just kinda shocked how someone could be so blind to the fact that the guy is a jerk. I just read the convo she posted & knew right away the guy is a "bad boy" type of guy & treats people like ****. And a lot of women are attracted to that I guess because they have the confidence & superficial charm to get the women. As I said, ultimately, these women are hurting themselves by chasing these kinds of men. No sweat off our back.
NJ123 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 As I said, ultimately, these women are hurting themselves by chasing these kinds of men. No sweat off our back. Yeah, definitely. The thing is it seems a lot of the attractive women fall for the "bad boy" type of guys when their younger, than when these women get a bit older (25-30 age range) they all of a sudden want a good guy to settle with whom they never would have given a chance to in the past. Can't fall for the trap some of these women pull.
Cristo Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Yeah, definitely. The thing is it seems a lot of the attractive women fall for the "bad boy" type of guys when their younger, than when these women get a bit older (25-30 age range) they all of a sudden want a good guy to settle with whom they never would have given a chance to in the past. Can't fall for the trap some of these women pull. I don't think that women go for bad boy types, per se. I do think women go for good-looking guys and guys with high social status, many of which also happen to be the bad boy types. Yes, SOME women do grow out of this (not all), but as long as they don't have any emotional or physical baggage from it, it's not really that big of a deal, imo. In my case in particular, I wasn't exactly an angel from my mid-teens to mid-20s so I can't really say anything on the matter either way lol.
NJ123 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I don't think that women go for bad boy types, per se. I do think women go for good-looking guys and guys with high social status, many of which also happen to be the bad boy types. Yes, SOME women do grow out of this (not all), but as long as they don't have any emotional or physical baggage from it, it's not really that big of a deal, imo. In my case in particular, I wasn't exactly an angel from my mid-teens to mid-20s so I can't really say anything on the matter either way lol. A lot of the "bad boy" types are losers, but a lot of women still fall for them anyways due to their confidence & superficial charm like I said that a lot of women like. And true, it seems that way for a big percentage of women. But I don't see why anyone would want to be with a woman whom only entirely dated trashy guys in the past, than all of a sudden wants a good guy when she's a bit older so she can settle down with him & have kids. And also especially if she mentions how she hates all her exes. That's a huge red flag right there. My friend went on a date with an attractive woman & she was saying how she hated her ex & he was abusive. He never contacted her again after that. The type of women who have a history of bad relationships in my opinion are much more likely to cheat & aren't relationship material due to their ****ty personalities.
mightycpa Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I've never met you OP, but I have a pretty good sense that I know what it takes to bang you. You like him, and you like the bad boy disrespect. It is just enough for you, even if it is completely over the top for everybody reading this. To each their own. Enjoy, but be forewarned that it will not last. The one thing he's not giving you any of: INTIMACY. Have fun! 1
Cristo Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 A lot of the "bad boy" types are losers, but a lot of women still fall for them anyways due to their confidence & superficial charm like I said that a lot of women like. Confidence and charm are two personality traits that can be developed. You could have them too if you'd take the time to develop them. And true, it seems that way for a big percentage of women. But I don't see why anyone would want to be with a woman whom only entirely dated trashy guys in the past, than all of a sudden wants a good guy when she's a bit older so she can settle down with him & have kids. And also especially if she mentions how she hates all her exes. That's a huge red flag right there. My friend went on a date with an attractive woman & she was saying how she hated her ex & he was abusive. He never contacted her again after that. The type of women who have a history of bad relationships in my opinion are much more likely to cheat & aren't relationship material due to their ****ty personalities. In my opinion, it's not a good idea to discuss exes on a first date to begin with, but I agree that a woman that was previously in an abusive relationship CAN be a red flag (depending on the circumstances, how long ago it was, what she has done to fix herself since then, etc.). But there are also varying degrees of bad boy. For example, I know an awesome girl that is 21 right now. Her ex is a bad boy. Basically, he came from a low income family and joined the marines. He had her going out of her way constantly for him and basically treated her like crap. He never abused her, but he ended up cheating. She broke up with him. She's not bitter about it and has a really bubbly personality. She no baggage (physical or emotional) from it. So, while she DID date a bad boy, it really wasn't so bad.
Cristo Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 I've never met you OP, but I have a pretty good sense that I know what it takes to bang you. You like him, and you like the bad boy disrespect. It is just enough for you, even if it is completely over the top for everybody reading this. To each their own. Enjoy, but be forewarned that it will not last. The one thing he's not giving you any of: INTIMACY. Have fun! Yes, she has low self-esteem. If you treat her like you don't like her, she will be into you.
jay1983 Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 So when are you going to sleep with him do you reckon? (or have you already passed that point) When I read this, I was like "passed that point" read the next comment and... We already did and while we were in bed he told me to call my ex and tell him how much I love him. I knew it lol 1
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