Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 On Wednesday I was out of the office at a meeting & my colleague was the only person there. A woman who is new in the building and looks to be around early-mid 40s came into my office to hand in a parcel that was taken to her office by mistake. When she came in she apparently looked round to where I sit first & said to my colleague "where's the tall good-looking guy?" She had been in the week prior to this again handing in a parcel. I don't know her but it's got me wondering. I'm 26yrs old. Should I start chatting to her?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 I would not... just not my credo. At work relationships are disasters waiting to happen. If you are thinking FWB, you can be suave by complementing something attractive about her in a nice way. You may have to wait for a day when you notice jewelry or article of clothing that is not the norm for her. This way it looks like you have taken notice of her for some time. See how she takes the complement and leads you.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 At work relationships are disasters waiting to happen. She's not in the same company, she's in a different company in an office a few doors down.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Still if you see her or she sees you coming and going it still is not good if something should go wrong. If looking for FWB, there will be no emotional connection... Like I say, a simple gesture of being noticed will bring her out to make the call. It may be as simple as waving good morning when she sees you. I don't think she would be interested if you came up and started things. Give her something to be interested in without making it be so personal between you. There is a different mind set between you. To have a younger gent be too aggressive shows less maturity about handling discrete activity. Allow her to make the call this way she has control. Not all women are that way but with age they tend to be more so. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 To have a younger gent be too aggressive shows less maturity about handling discrete activity. Allow her to make the call this way she has control. Not all women are that way but with age they tend to be more so. I think if I see her I will smile at her, say hello & ask how her day is going - that should be sufficient. The ball is in her court after that..........................
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Yep! I can think of things to do time to time, but never had the courage to try from my shyness. Though I am happy I do have a good imagination, to at least find pleasure in the outcome as well. LOL! No you are not my guinea pig. Just I know older women better than I should, as I heard a lot of there convos. Seems like I present myself as trusting or harmless in my activities around them.
Gloria25 Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Are you sure she's not just being "outspoken"? I think some women with age get bolder - especially with the whole "MILF" and "Cougar" rage now a days... Does she talk with such familiarity to/about others?
Tayken Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 She's not in the same company, she's in a different company in an office a few doors down. I'll say play along with the tease and flirt, and if an opportunity presents itself, bang the h311 out of her. She might just be looking for some fun, and it sounds like she is using every opportunity to flaunt herself at ya. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 It's hard to get inside her head to know exactly what she wants so the only advice I would have is if your paths cross again, just be friendly and see what happens next. Most older women aren't into playing games at this stage in life so if she's interested in you, she'll let you know it. If not, you haven't lost anything. Good luck.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 I will try and make some talk with her if I see her on Monday. Get the ball rolling. 1
GorillaTheater Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 I don't want to jinx anything, but I can't tell you how glad I am to see you interested in another woman and not posting about your psycho ex.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Cheers GT. Well she was the one who showed interest in me and yes it is flattering to know that she thinks I'm nice. I will pursue her and see where it goes. What do you reckon from what she said of me?
GorillaTheater Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 What do you reckon from what she said of me? I'd say relax, be friendly, and see how things develop, with the caveat that workplace relationships can be problematic. I've seen you prone to overthinking things. Learn to sit back and see what happens. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 I've seen you prone to overthinking things. Learn to sit back and see what happens. It's just the way I am when I overthink things, I get myself in such a mess sometimes - maybe even paranoid.
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 I'm actually kind of excited in a way because it's a way of occupying my thoughts in a positive & constructive way over recent traumatic events. I even feel like 'going out my way' just to talk to her since I know that she is at least interested in me somehow!
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