GarrusVakarian Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Finally filed my divorce papers today. A year ago Sunday, I found out my wife of 2 years had been having an affair with a married man. Twenty years older than her. Been a roller coaster year, but its finally in. Just waiting game to see what her reaction will be. She left our marriage after I found out to be with this other man. As soon as I found out she abandoned the marital home and wouldn't deal with anything. I hear she is still with this other man now. I don't care much about my marriage. I just really feel for the other mans wife. Married to this guy since she was 16. Thirty three years down the toilet. My stbxw behaviour has been atrocious looking back at it all. She even tried to blame it all on me!. Said I had unresolved issues relating to the death of my nephew that affected out marriage. She used the death of a baby to justify her behaviour. She was making prank phone calls to this other mans wife telling her that her husband was still having an affair and going to leave her. The lies she comes out with, tells friends who don't know I was the reason we broke up, I was a controlling abusive husband which was a total lie. The woman is toxic and evil. I am glad to be getting rid of her. Still she seems to be hiding her relationship as she apparently books in to hotels to be with OM. All a bit seedy. But not my problem Lost a lot of friends along the way, but have picked myself backup and I am pretty positive for the future. 3
PegNosePete Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Her behaviour sounds pretty typical tbh. Gaslighting, lying, blame shifting. They all do it to one degree or another. You did change the locks, right?
No Limit Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 That woman isn't evil, she's just very, very broken. Oh well, perhaps she'll hang up on drugs someday and that'll be it.
Author GarrusVakarian Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 Her behaviour sounds pretty typical tbh. Gaslighting, lying, blame shifting. They all do it to one degree or another. You did change the locks, right? All locks are changed. I don't think she would have the bottle to try to get in though. House is all signed over and in my name. 1
GoBlue Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Sorry friend. Hopefully a fresh start will bring new hope and new joy into your life. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
BlessingInDisguise Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 I just went thru a divorce earlier this year. We were together 16years total. He was cheating and had been doing it for years. He's now shacked up with the other woman, planning a wedding and has a baby on the way. It does get better. Take my word for it. At least you found out before you were in to deep. Good Luck and believe me, it was probably a blessing in disguise, I know mine was. 1
Author GarrusVakarian Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Sorry friend. Hopefully a fresh start will bring new hope and new joy into your life. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you,I know ill be ok.
Author GarrusVakarian Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 I just went thru a divorce earlier this year. We were together 16years total. He was cheating and had been doing it for years. He's now shacked up with the other woman, planning a wedding and has a baby on the way. It does get better. Take my word for it. At least you found out before you were in to deep. Good Luck and believe me, it was probably a blessing in disguise, I know mine was. Yes it was very lucky. So lucky I didn't have kids out I would have been so screwed!. I know they won't last, 20 year age gap and the ex still keeps it hidden. Booking in to hotels out of town. All very seedy.
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