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xxoo Established Member

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Looking isn't so much a problem. Heck, I have eyes, too!

 

Seeking and collecting is much more of an issue for me. I pay the same respect.

 

Some of this may be a maturity issue. Teens of both sexes collect pictures of attractive celebs, and some don't grow out of the habit. Otherwise, it could be an issue of normalcy for the person. All their friends do it, so it seems normal.

 

Seek a guy with more tactful, mature friends.

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Ninjainpajamas Established Member

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I've never been in that situation myself, I mean I knew my boyfriend would look at theChive and if I thought about it too hard I'd feel jealousy creeping up and then the sane part of me remembers that probably 95% of men have theChive app on their phone and it's harmless.

 

I wouldn't blame you for being a little jealous over theChive.

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It depends how he looks,and why.

If a couple is comfortable, happy, open with one another and affectionate, truthful and trustworthy, a guy can look at as many women as he likes, his partner won't feel threatened. The same goes in reverse.

 

However, any insecurity, uncertainty, doubt, lack of trust and low self-esteem, and the mere act of turning the head could set off WW3 and hours of angst-ridden frantic worry.

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Keenly - you took my post out of context or didn't read it as I implied...

 

He has a hot, scantily dressed photo of a girl he KNOWS, has MET, knows where she works.

 

That is quite different from quickly glancing at fully clothed strangers on the street, or passing by. And I look at men AND women. And am 100% straight. I am not looking at people and thinking, "hhhmmm, what do they look like naked? I'd like to tap that, etc." I am usually looking at their faces and body proportions, how they carry themselves. Yes, if they are good looking, nice to look at. Has nothing to do with thinking about the sexual act or anything close to that. But again, I'm close to 50, so a bit more mature in my thinking...

 

Again - BIG difference.

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StanMusial Established Member

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People are going to look at each other. Not much you can do about it.

 

To this specific case though... it is shady that he met some bartender and befriended her and ogles her photos. That's... kinda weird. I doubt his gf has anything to worry about though, chiquita probably has thousands of Facebook "friends" clamoring for her attention. Odds are slim he would ever get further than admiring her photos.

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I doubt his gf has anything to worry about though, chiquita probably has thousands of Facebook "friends" clamoring for her attention. Odds are slim he would ever get further than admiring her photos.

 

If that's the case, I'd dump him for being so pathetic :laugh:

 

No way I'm staying with some guy who is with me because he can't get with the bar tender chick :confused:

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Phoe Established Member

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Perhaps his girlfriend doesn't mind it.

 

I don't mind my boyfriend looking at other girls, and he knows this. I know that he can look at pretty girls all day every day but still come home and want only me.

 

He doesn't look when we're together, unless it's a girl with particularly large breasts, in which case he tells me so that I can look too, haha. I like boobs too :D

 

Images, porn, real girls. Looking is fine. If I see a particularly hot photo of an actress or singer I know he likes, I'll show it to him. He likes that he doesn't have to hide any of that from me

Tayken Established Member

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Perhaps his girlfriend doesn't mind it.

 

I don't mind my boyfriend looking at other girls, and he knows this. I know that he can look at pretty girls all day every day but still come home and want only me.

 

He doesn't look when we're together, unless it's a girl with particularly large breasts, in which case he tells me so that I can look too, haha. I like boobs too :D

 

Images, porn, real girls. Looking is fine. If I see a particularly hot photo of an actress or singer I know he likes, I'll show it to him. He likes that he doesn't have to hide any of that from me

 

As long as he reciprocates am guessing by showing you a pic of McDreamy, Brad Pitt, Ryan Gosling, Will Smith, Drake, Lil Wayne, Enrique Iglesias...amirite? :D

Phoe Established Member

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As long as he reciprocates am guessing by showing you a pic of McDreamy, Brad Pitt, Ryan Gosling, Will Smith, Drake, Lil Wayne, Enrique Iglesias...amirite? :D

 

I don't find any of them attractive.

 

Lil Wayne though?! Really!? Eww. :lmao:

 

I find Dan Radcliffe and Benedict Cumberbatch rather handsome though, and he knows that and is fine with it.

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I don't find any of them attractive.

 

Lil Wayne though?! Really!? Eww. :lmao:

 

I find Dan Radcliffe and Benedict Cumberbatch rather handsome though, and he knows that and is fine with it.

 

 

So you have a thing for us Brits then is what you are saying......no surprise there then. It's not uncommon for me to get upgraded at the airports in the US, or for women to bed over backwards to help me when they hear my accent and go..."you sound lovely and polite :D

Phoe Established Member

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So you have a thing for us Brits then is what you are saying......no surprise there then. It's not uncommon for me to get upgraded at the airports in the US, or for women to bed over backwards to help me when they hear my accent and go..."you sound lovely and polite :D

 

I'd agree, I do have a fondness for Brits. Tom Hiddleston is lovely too.

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So you have a thing for us Brits then is what you are saying......no surprise there then. It's not uncommon for me to get upgraded at the airports in the US, or for women to bed over backwards to help me when they hear my accent and go..."you sound lovely and polite :D

 

Really? "To BED over backwards" LOL even with a sexy accent that just sounds funny ;)

 

I would like to believe that as I look and appreciate a fine piece of art that the same goes for noticing an attractive person. And just as I don't drool upon a timeless Van Gogh's A Starry Night, I also would refrain from drooling over a person whether I am with my significant other or alone.

 

...you also left out Dwane Johnson, Hugh Jackman & Chris Helmsworth... :D

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I wouldn't blame you for being a little jealous over theChive.

 

Meh, it's pretty innocent in the grand scheme of things. I have a history of insecurity so I'd rather not view theChive as something to be jealous of but just view it as another website that has come and will go. There are more important things to be think about :p

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I don't find any of them attractive.

 

Lil Wayne though?! Really!? Eww. :lmao:

 

I find Dan Radcliffe and Benedict Cumberbatch rather handsome though, and he knows that and is fine with it.

 

Totally with you on this one. Other then the fact that the people brought up were pretty random, I have never been a Brad Pitt/Ryan Gosling/George Clooney kind of person. Tom Hiddleston, Chris Pratt and Benedict Cumberbatch? Yes please :):D

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