zhaulk Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 I really need some help. I...don't know what to do. I just found out my ex is pregnant with a mutual friend/co-worker. I..have never felt so crushed and devastated in my life. Can anyone please talk to me?
OwMyEyeball Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 That must be very hard for you to take. I'm sorry for your pain. I know you may not feel up for it right now, but is there anything you can do to keep your mind occupied while the emotions get a chance to process? Or maybe you can just vent a little on here. What is it that hurts the most about your experience?
mightycpa Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Yeah, what part bugs you? Is it that she's pregnant? Like, what if some stranger knocked her up, would that feel the same? Or is it because you know the father?
Ecko08 Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 Let it spill out, man. I'm about to do the same on my own thread.
Author zhaulk Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 I guess the worst thing is it's only been 5 months. Already pregnant. I feel betrayed by him, and replaceable..
Author zhaulk Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 Hahaha. Maybe I'm just manic now, but on second thought this is so jerry springer, and probably what I need to move on. I thought to myself..what does he have, that I don't have. The answer is Probation. Karma is such a bitch. 3 months no contact, sticking to it, moving on to better things in life 4
FortunateSon Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 I a sorry for your pain, but you hit the nail on the head, this might be exactly what you need....there's no going back now.
Dontfindme Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 The shock of it will wear off- if it hasn't already. And now you can abandon all hope of him returning, and move on to better things in life; like yourself and all that you have left to accomplish.
Author zhaulk Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 I mis typed earlier, I felt betrayed by him, the mutual friend. I was engaged to the girl. Sorry for the confusion, but thanks for the thoughts all the same. I woke up with new perspective today. I do feel a bit sorry for her, but I hope it works out, and I hope it's what she wants. I feel like we weren't really in love, but us being together for two years really means something. Sometimes, even though she's been so mean to me, I want to be friends one day. Years from now, I wonder if it will be possible. Either way, this is the best I have felt in a while. I am excited to STAY single instead of rebounding like last time. I have lost down to 228 pounds (I am 6 foot 2). So I'm still kind of a fat ass, but I started out at 270. Hope to get down to 190. I'll keep everyone updated 1
Author zhaulk Posted September 26, 2014 Author Posted September 26, 2014 Up and down, up and down. Feeling depressed today. Hope I'll feel better later.
Bella2 Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Hahaha. Maybe I'm just manic now, but on second thought this is so jerry springer That made me smile, hang on to your sense of humor
Bella2 Posted September 26, 2014 Posted September 26, 2014 Up and down, up and down. Feeling depressed today. Hope I'll feel better later. The Rollercoaster. I'm on it too. Up, down, up, down, sometimes in a matter of minutes. It seems to be part of this amazing, mindblowing and life changing trip we're taking. *irony*
Author zhaulk Posted September 27, 2014 Author Posted September 27, 2014 Thanks bella. Update guys: I confronted the guy today, and I had a whole new attitude about it. I told him: Me: "I know what's going on. And you don't have to hide anymore. You are my friend. I am happy for you, and I wish you the best." Him: "That means a lot to me. I just didn't want to put it in your face." Me: "I also know you are scared. I know that you lost a child before. But I have a good feeling for you this time, and this time you have my blessing. Don't worry, it's all going to work out." Him: *big smile* *tear rolling down his cheek* "Thank you" Me: "You're my friend. Call me when you need to." Then..believe it or not. He brought my ex up there to see me. And I talked to her for the first time in 3 months. I didn't feel any romantic feelings for her, I just felt happy for her. I told her I was very happy for her, and that I think we should be friends one day, but that I'm not quite ready yet. We hugged and then I walked away. Overall, it's been a very good day. I feel like sometimes you have to face your fears to get over them. I'm moving forward with a smile on my face, and a skip in my step. I'm a man, and this is how a man handles things. I know I'm a better friend than I am a boyfriend, and sometimes that gets me down. But hey, what's wrong with being a great friend? Nothing. =)
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