Is it my fault that this guy never texted me back?

[xobeautyxoo]

A few days ago, I promised my guy friend that we can hang out this week and today I texted him saying, "hey wanna hang out tomorrow"? He responded back right away saying "Sure". A minute later, I texted back saying, "Ok, do you want to go out to lunch tomorrow at 12" Then he ignored my text after that. Should I have not said that? Is this my fault? Why wouldn't he text back after I suggested to go out to lunch but he chose to respond when I asked to 'hang out'?

[Atticus9292012]

He probably forgot to respond or maybe he had other plans. I wouldn't that much based on what you provided.

[LoneIsland]

Here's a very probable scenario: after replying to you, he accidentally dropped the phone in the toilet and was unable to reply after that.

[BlueIris]

A few days ago, I promised my guy friend that we can hang out this week and today I texted him saying, "hey wanna hang out tomorrow"? He responded back right away saying "Sure". A minute later, I texted back saying, "Ok, do you want to go out to lunch tomorrow at 12" Then he ignored my text after that. Should I have not said that? Is this my fault? Why wouldn't he text back after I suggested to go out to lunch but he chose to respond when I asked to 'hang out'?

 

Yes, you should have said that. You’re fine. It is normal to make definite plans. But he does not want to commit to a day and time, so he must be rude, irresponsible or doesn’t want to do it-- not good for a friend or a boyfriend. Make plans with another friend or friends. You did nothing wrong.

[Redhead14]

It is not about fault. If he didn't respond because you asked such a simple thing, he's not for you

[Gaeta]

Because he did not get the text.

 

You know sometimes Text don't make it to the other end for some reasons, or they do make it hours later. It happened to me many times.

[Zahara]

I have to wonder if you're pulling our leg with these threads that you create.

[me85]

The possibilities are endless. There is nothing wrong with what you sent him. Either time. How long have you been waiting for his reply? I would just send him another text saying "Let me know what time you wana meet up."

[Mike B.]

I have to wonder if you're pulling our leg with these threads that you create.

 

It kills me when someone posts a few sentence then asks a bunch of strangers to read someone's mind and all the strangers then attempt to try to read someone's mind. It never gets old. Can we really know or have insight into why someone's friend didn't answer a text?

[Zahara]

It kills me when someone posts a few sentence then asks a bunch of strangers to read someone's mind and all the strangers then attempt to try to read someone's mind. It never gets old. Can we really know or have insight into why someone's friend didn't answer a text?

 

It's not so much her vagueness and expectations of us reading minds but in all her threads, it's this similar pattern of questions and she never revisits the threads. It's just odd that people provide advice, but soon enough she creates another thread about the actions of another guy and then abandons the thread.

[Mister Zen]

Here are some words of wisdom that have made my life a lot easier.. listen close:

 

People don't do what they do because of you. They do what they do because of themselves.

 

When I learned this little nugget of wisdom a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I basically take no responsibility for the behavior of grown adults. Zero. And neither should you. Just do what you think is right. That way you can sleep at night. If people don't react or respond the way you'd like.. well.. that's not your fault.