Asking her out while she's at work

[sid3]

She works in a small office with a boss that's often within earshot. Often there will be a patient or two in the waiting room. While I've spoken to her a time or two in the parking lot, I'm not willing to settle on fate bringing us together in order to ask her out. I'm sure she'd say yes, but being respectful to her being at work is far more important. Curious to hear if slipping her my card with my number and an invite would come across as cheesy.

[preraph]

I think slipping her your card with a little note "Call if you ever want to go do something" is fine.

[Assasda]

How about just personally telling her, and asking her number

[sid3]

How about just personally telling her, and asking her number

 

You missed the premise. While that's exactly what I'll do if and when I encounter her outside of the office, I don't think it would be appropriate to do so while she's working, only because it's very small office and her personal life is not her boss's business.

[LoneIsland]

For some women, making the call has to be the man. Probably a note on the card asking her to write down her number would work best.

[mammasita]

Seeing your dilemma, my idea is to slip her your card with your number and a note that says "Text me your number - I'd love to call you and ask you out".

 

Happy medium between all of the ideas above. Nobody in her business AND you know she is truly interested when she contacts you, plus as the man you are ultimately calling and asking her out.

[d0nnivain]

If you are a patient in that practice, don't ask period. She has access to your medical records. It's weird.

 

If you also work in the building, ask when she goes on break or takes lunch.

 

If you can't rely on fate to make that happen, call the office & ask for her. Then ask when she goes on break or at least ask her to lunch.

[oberkeat]

I think slipping her your card with a little note "Call if you ever want to go do something" is fine.

 

I don't like this approach. It's tacky and impersonal.

Edited September 26, 2014 by oberkeat

[sid3]

Thanks for some good suggestions, I may put them to good use, although I've met someone else that I intend to ask out directly as the circumstances are different and she's more to my liking.