What would you do?

[cloudedmind]

It is with a heavy heart that I write this, but I appreciate any advice or comments..

 

A couple of weeks ago, my girlfriend of 6 years ended it.

We had been living together for a year and half. I knew she was not happy

with some things, but thought it was mainly because starting out/living together

is tough, espcially for the first year. I have begun to realize I made alot of mistakes in the

living together relationship. I got used to the normal boring day to day work/living routine, and forgot and

didn't appreciate the relationship we had. I thought of myself alot, and took her for granted.

I didn't fulllfil some of the commitments I said I was going to do,

so we could move forward, I made her feel the relationship was going nowhere.

bottom line is I screwed up, and her feelings for me dwindled to the point, where she

dumped me on Valintines.

 

She was always a very good girl, but now she avoids me, doesn't like to talk, and goes

clubbing every chance she gets. She also seems to drink heavily at least once a week.

Since we live together, its very weird now for both of us. At first I tried to rationalize and

talk to her, basically begging her for a 2nd chance. But she held her ground, and has an

overwhelming belief,we will never make it, and she has to move out/move on asap.

I belive my attempts to fix things, just pushed her farther away.

 

Well all i really know is I love her very much. She tells me she loves me, but not like before.

I want to change myself to be a better man, and hope one day I can get her back.

I don't want her to move out, I feel if she does, she will be gone forever.

I've started to improve myself with being more active, going out, spending time away

from her, minimizing contact, but ultimately she is very much on my mind, and in my heart.

 

Its really really tough, but I think I gotta give her that "space" she needs, and see what happens.

Its so strange to see someone act so differently around me..

I plan on being polite and keeping out of her way.

I want her back, but think her mind is made up right now..

What else should I do? what you you guys do?

 

thanks

[kypepeo]

The way things are right now, she definately needs her space. Let her move out otherwise she'll resent you even more. You two have been together for a long time. Fight for that relationship. Start over again. Act like you are dating her again and bring back all the things she loved about you. Make her feel special and let her see how much you love her.............not only by the things you say but the things you do. You've seen where you went wrong. Make it up to her and let her see for herself that you appreciate her. If she stays in your apartment, that won't be able to happen and all she'll be seeing is this person that she wants to get away from. Go with the flow of what's happening right now and make the best of it. It could work out pretty well.