sweetascandy Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Hey everyone how are all of you doing? Well I am in need of some advice,I just don't know what to do anymore.I have been talking to this guy he seemed like a very nice guy and just what I was looking for in a man.Ok so he told me that he really wanted to make us work out and that he thought that we would be good together.He asked me to move in with him after we talked for about 2 weeks and I said yes I would.He also has a lil boy that is 2 years old.He said that the lil boys mother walked out on him and that she signed all rights to the kid over to him so it was just him and his son. Well anyway I told him I'd move in with him and he was suppose to come and get me but never showed up so the next time I talked to him he said that he had past out and had to go to the hospital.He had a blood clot in his head from an injury that he had gotten in a sports accident.So I said ok,he was scared that I'd leave him after he had the surgery but I told him that I wasn't that type of person.This guy made all types of promises to me and said that he'd never make a promise that he couldn't keep,told me he'd never treat me bad and I'd always know that I was wanted,he'd make sure I knew he cared about me and everything. Well I called him on the phone about 2 weeks ago,we talked for a lil while and he said that he'd call me back,I said ok.Well he never called back so I called him all that week and he never answered the phone and didn't call me back.I talked to a friend the other day who knows him but doesn't know that me and him are suppose to be dating.This women is 50-60 years old and married and he calls her mom.Well I managed to sneak around and ask a few questions about him and she told some pretty interesting stuff.She told me that he calls her everyday and they talk.Well I sent him an email,he read it but no response.So I sent another email that said that it was pretty clear that he was dodging me and that if he didn't wanna talk to me that all he had to do was say so.He read that one but still no response.So can anyone please help me out here,I'm lost.This is the type of guy who says what he wants when he wants,so what is going on?Can anyone give me any input on this situation....please?
rowi1116 Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 did you visit him in the hospital? who was taking care of the 2 year old while he was in the hospital? he doesnt sound genuine i am sorry to say. it sounds like if his ex did leave him with the child, he is looking for help in raising this child. moving in will just leave you with a handful of responsibilities that he couldnt handle himself. he has not returned your calls, stood you up and not responded to your e-mails. dont let him reel you in for anything. does he own the place you were planning to move in with him? he might be looking for someone to lay the rent on. best advice i can say is stay away from making any sort of commitment with this guy at this point. . you have only known this guy a few weeks, and you have been left with so many questions. his situations in life seem pretty unclear.....
Author sweetascandy Posted March 7, 2005 Author Posted March 7, 2005 No I didn't visit him in the hospital because I didn't know that he was there until he was already home.Plus he knows that I don't have a way up there cuz he stays 2 hours away from me.And the only reason I agreed to move in with him so fast is because of the way my parents treat me and I actually thought this guy mean't what he said.Yes he told me that he has his own place and just built it,he has his own business and all from what he told me that is.Even told me that he had bought me a tanning bed and a hot-tub to go by the pool and that he told his sister she couldn't use it until I used it first.His mom had the 2 year old.Plus he is younger than i am so I'm beginning to think he is very inmature.
moimeme Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Never, EVER move in with a stranger, particularly when you've only been talking for two weeks. That is utter complete craziness. You have no way of knowing what kind of man this is - everything he tells you could be a lie. People like you get kidnapped, raped, and even killed by strangers on the internet. Do you not get how dangerous this plan is? You sound extremely young and very very unwise in the ways of the world. Stay home with your parents until you're old enough to figure out how to stay out of danger. And I repeat, NEVER EVER EVER AGREE TO MEET A STRANGER FROM THE INTERNET. When you're a lot older, maybe you will know how do do something like that but even grown women know better than to agree to go live with a stranger after two weeks. You look out or you could end up dead.
Author sweetascandy Posted March 7, 2005 Author Posted March 7, 2005 yeah I know it sounds crazy but staying with my parents is crazy to.I posted on an abuse forum on here about my parents but its under another screen name.
moimeme Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 If you are being abused, the answer is not to run to a stranger. Talk to a teacher or a counsellor at school or your priest or call a kids' abuse hotline. Do NOT go live with some stranger. Here's an international abuse hotline for kids. Talk to them. http://www.childhelpusa.org/programs_hotline.htm
Ms_Sweetness Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Some guys are just compulsive liars. I had a guy that I'd known for 2yrs promise me the world, when I agreed he backed out. Guess he just wanted to hear himself talk. Bottom line is, trusting someone takes time and patience and moving in with someone is a huge step when you don't really know that person.
Author sweetascandy Posted March 7, 2005 Author Posted March 7, 2005 No but I am definatly looking but they fuss when I do get a job cuz they have to care me to work. And yeah I agree with ya he may be a compulsive liar but he does like to brag about how much money he had and all that kind of stuff.I have always heard the ones that brag are hiding the truth and just trying to make theirselves look good.
Ms_Sweetness Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 They guy that I mentioned bragged alot about his money as well. He's no good for you, he needs time alone to grow up.
Author sweetascandy Posted March 7, 2005 Author Posted March 7, 2005 Yeah I do believe that you are right.Thanx girl glad to have your advice on this situation its very appreciated.
moimeme Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Try to get a job and then if you want to live away from home, see if you can find a group of girls who are looking for a roommate. It's a whole lot safer than taking off and living with some strange guy. Plus, you could make some good friends.
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