My ex keeps calling me, when im in the no contact stage [Updates]

[bigfred]

My ex keeps calling me with caller id block, i know its her because i purchased an app that tells you who is calling with caller id block, so we have broken up for about a month and a week, but just last couple of weeks she has calling me with this caller id block ****, so now i know its her, i answer some times but she does not talk or nothing she just sits there and listens, then she hangs up. this weekend she has gone overboard and called me over 15 times and even called me at 1:43 in the morning, i texted her goodnight and she texted back this lasted till 5.00 in the morning until i told that i needed to sleep that my check out itme was at 11.00 am giving her the idea that i was not home but stating in a hotel room, after that she stopped texting me. what do i do, i have been with no contact for a month should i start again? and dont anser or text her

[Magnet]

My ex keeps calling me with caller id block, i know its her because i purchased an app that tells you who is calling with caller id block, so we have broken up for about a month and a week, but just last couple of weeks she has calling me with this caller id block ****, so now i know its her, i answer some times but she does not talk or nothing she just sits there and listens, then she hangs up. this weekend she has gone overboard and called me over 15 times and even called me at 1:43 in the morning, i texted her goodnight and she texted back this lasted till 5.00 in the morning until i told that i needed to sleep that my check out itme was at 11.00 am giving her the idea that i was not home but stating in a hotel room, after that she stopped texting me. what do i do, i have been with no contact for a month should i start again? and dont anser or text her

 

If you REALLY want to never hear from her, you can change numbers, or block her.

 

Or tell her to stop contacting you...

[bigfred]

If you REALLY want to never hear from her, you can change numbers, or block her.

 

Or tell her to stop contacting you...

 

 

 

 

 

i really cant change my number due to my business and if i block her, she will try other means to get a hold me for sure, what can i do just ignore her until she gives up or send that 180 text message?

[d0nnivain]

Who broke up with whom?

 

If you broke it off, next time she calls, tell her that she needs to stop contacting you because it's over & her continued pursuit is only hurting her.

 

If she broke it off, tell her that if she ever cared about you she will stop contacting you because her pursuit hurts you again & again. If she is trying to reconcile make it clear to her that that ship sailed & then go back to blocking.

[Ecko08]

I would kill to get a call. Although, mine was ex-fiancé.

[bigfred]

Who broke up with whom?

 

If you broke it off, next time she calls, tell her that she needs to stop contacting you because it's over & her continued pursuit is only hurting her.

 

If she broke it off, tell her that if she ever cared about you she will stop contacting you because her pursuit hurts you again & again. If she is trying to reconcile make it clear to her that that ship sailed & then go back to blocking.

 

 

it was me that broke it off, but i still miss her very much.

[PegNosePete]

i purchased an app that tells you who is calling with caller id block

It's not possible for an app to do this.

How do you know it's her calling?

[amaysngrace]

The best way to get someone's attention is to stop giving them yours.

[d0nnivain]

it was me that broke it off, but i still miss her very much.

 

Do you miss her or the idea of her?

[me85]

Simply tell her you need some time and space. Ask nicely and let her know that you have to avoid her until you've had time to wrap your head around everything. You have to be straight forward with her. Brutally honest, even. Since you "miss her very much" there's nothing brutal about it. But you can't engage in meaningless conversation with her just to make her feel better or ease your guilt. You made a decision. You should stick with it until your 100% positive you know you made a mistake by breaking it off with her. You're going to accidentally lead her on by remaining in contact with her. I'm telling you.

[bigfred]

Well, to put it in a nut shell, i have recently broken things with my girlfriend after two years, The reason for the breakup, was that we had gotten into a couple of fights resulting in that she messed up my car real bad and i broke her phone and some other things that had happen bettween us. The thing is that we got back together and since then (8 months) together after the fight. She doesnt want to tell anyone that we are together again friends and family or nor her children so bassicly we have been hidding behind everyone's back for quite some time now! . Its been tough but i have stuck to this situatuin beaciuse i love her very much and she says that she loves me to. The other day, we argued becouse i see that she is not going to tell anyone that we are together and its upsetting me so i gave her the ultamaton that said in a text to her " at the end of the day, you are never going to be with me, the way i want to be with you... Thats it" She hasent responded to my text nor call me. I also broke it off with her that same day of the text, due to the situation in hidding and not be able to see her at her house nor go to any family functions , Thanksgving, birthdays, etc!! i miss her so much but im in the no contact rule now for the 4 days and no contact in my part nor her. Now chritmas is arounnd the corner and i dont know what to do. If she calls me, im affriad that ill be back in the same boat that i was in before the breakup. She has told me in the past that at least i have 50% of her and its better nothing at all, so i have dealing with that for while and just put my foot down... WHAT DO I DO!! help please..

[Detectingfreak]

Well, to put it in a nut shell, i have recently broken things with my girlfriend after two years, The reason for the breakup, was that we had gotten into a couple of fights resulting in that she messed up my car real bad and i broke her phone and some other things that had happen bettween us. The thing is that we got back together and since then (8 months) together after the fight. She doesnt want to tell anyone that we are together again friends and family or nor her children so bassicly we have been hidding behind everyone's back for quite some time now! . Its been tough but i have stuck to this situatuin beaciuse i love her very much and she says that she loves me to. The other day, we argued becouse i see that she is not going to tell anyone that we are together and its upsetting me so i gave her the ultamaton that said in a text to her " at the end of the day, you are never going to be with me, the way i want to be with you... Thats it" She hasent responded to my text nor call me. I also broke it off with her that same day of the text, due to the situation in hidding and not be able to see her at her house nor go to any family functions , Thanksgving, birthdays, etc!! i miss her so much but im in the no contact rule now for the 4 days and no contact in my part nor her. Now chritmas is arounnd the corner and i dont know what to do. If she calls me, im affriad that ill be back in the same boat that i was in before the breakup. She has told me in the past that at least i have 50% of her and its better nothing at all, so i have dealing with that for while and just put my foot down... WHAT DO I DO!! help please..

 

OP,

 

I was in the same situation. She doesnt appriciate you or she would have told everyone you are still together. She is emberressed and would have never made it public again. My ex didnt think i was good enough to make our relationship public after being with her for two years so i left and moved on. You need to move on and forget about her. Do hobbies, drinking and anything to keep your mind off her. People who hide relationships from public dont last and will never be able to keep any future relationships. Be single, be happy and party!

[Ieris]

I agree with the member above. If I'm in a relationship, I want to tell the whole world "He's mine!". I don't get the secrecy thing unless you have something to hide or ashamed...

 

Move on swiftly I say, go for someone who is proud to be with you and isn't afraid to show it!

[Satu]

The 50% comment makes me wonder who gets the other 50%.

 

Block, delete, forget.

[Poppyolive]

I don't understand why you'd text her the ultimatum. Did you text dump her too?

 

Maybe its best fie both of you this way.

[Ducktape]

Ultamaton ( ) shouldn't be given if you won't respect them. Besides, it's boundaries you need more than anything else. Being told that you only deserve 50% of her and that's plenty enough should be a major concern for you. Anyone with any level of self esteem wouldn't tolerate such a situation. Obviously, you're the low hanging fruit for her and she's waiting (working) on getting something better. You're a hobby at this point.

[bigfred]

Im the one tht broke it up, becouse when i would want to do something with a friend or do anything alone without her like shopping or eating out she would get upset and not aswer my calls or texts and then tell me that she couldnt answer back because she was either with her kids or her mother so i would have to wait until she called which could be up to hours and i just got feed up with it and called it quicks and no she is telling me that i gave up on her!!

[Ieris]

Lots of people do find neediness a turn off, it's like they don't have a life of their own. Funny enough NC teaches people to have a life of their own, that's why some exes come back

[bigfred]

last time i did the NC it worked just 2 weeks after she came back crying but i was still in the hidding from everyone situation which sucks!!! but this time around im holding my gorund and not letting her do that to me anymore, if she trys to ill tell her to tell her family and if not she can go back in to the NC again, im not letting up my foot this time, no more BS!!

[bigfred]

Well, i was doing the no contact for 30 days and she finally called two days after chritsmas (12 days after no contact. I broke up with her because she did not want to tell her family that we were back together. even though her family likes me very well. We have been together for almost three years, 1 year of hidding behind her familys back, well i just got sick of it and gave her the speach that if she did not want to let her family know then i was moving on, so i broke it off. she contacted me two days after chritmas and we spoke and went well, but i did not call her after she finnaly called me on New Years day and asked me if she wanted to see her and i agreed, we spoke about my terms and she was giving me hope that she would tell her family so we started the relationship again, she came over and spent the weekend with me and everything, but just the other day after we been back together just a week and the same **** started all over again with the hidding and not answering my calls or texts only when she was alone, i told her again that was not what i wanted and was in the same boat all over again, i would call and text her and she would call or text hours after and i just got sick of it and broke it off again 2 days ago, she said that she was use to me giving up on her and that i was not patient enough to hold on until she was ready, mind you i was always waiting on her due to our situation, my question is now im doing the no contact for 30 days and this time ill will not answer the phone even if she calls before the 30 days, i have done this before with her so she knows i wont call her because she told me. i dont know what to do anymore its hard to move on she says she loves me but if she really did she would have fixed things with her people and she has not! so i pulled the plug again, now if she calls do i pick up the phone to see if she has finnaly changed her mine or do i just let it go or give it one more shot, and if i do only in my terms?

[seminoles84]

I only read about half way cause it starts to hurt my eyes when people can't seem to break up their paragraphs (sorry).

 

What is her reason for hiding the relationship? Embarrassed to admit she broke up and came crawling back?

[bigfred]

I only read about half way cause it starts to hurt my eyes when people can't seem to break up their paragraphs (sorry).

 

What is her reason for hiding the relationship? Embarrassed to admit she broke up and came crawling back?

 

 

ya pretty much, she talked so much crap about me so she felt that she couldnt go back and tell her family that she is back with me and look stupid to them.

[Ducktape]

Well the merging of your threads sure puts a new perspective on that "love" story of yours.

 

I think that relationship is long gone, you're both chasing rainbows there.