Chs Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Yeah, so i've been doing a lot of thinking about my current relationship and if i should break up with her but i just can't decide. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years now, and i'm gonna be turning 22 soon. Before this relationship i've had another long term one, a lot of flings and a couple less serious relationships, while she has never even been at another guys house. In the beginning it didn't bother me at all, why would it? Well there's a lot of things i just feel more mature and experienced in regarding relationships (i can certainly be less mature than her in other matters tho) and i can see quite a bit of the behaviour i had in my first real relationship that i've already experienced and moved past. Also i started college this september, and i've been going out drinking a lot, which i haven't really done the past 2 years, and i must say i missed it. We see each other often still, it's mainly in the weekdays i go out, and then spend the weekend with her. Well last night i did something somewhat stupid, i flirted with another girl at a club. We were 4 guys out playing a game where we would get dares. I was in a really good mood and talked to a lot of people, mainly girls, harmless dancing and talking and all. Well this one girl who i initially just joked around with turned out to be a pretty sweet one. My friends went home and we were standing outside talking for a long time, hours maybe, until i finally said i'm going home. Didn't exchange numbers or kiss or anything at all, and i will never see her or think about her again so i don't feel like i was doing something wrong. BUT it did really make me feel like maybe i shouldn't be with my current girlfriend. At this age and time in life there are so many opportunities to talk to other people, and i have spend so much of my youth in relationships i kinda just want to be on my own for a while. I mean, i do love her, she's an extremely good person and i like most things about her. I kinda just wish we would have met later in life. I really don't know if this is just going to be a phase or a continuous problem. I know i'm gonna feel regret no matter what i do, because i both do and don't want to be with her.
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Sound like you want to sow your royal oats. Is this a new feeling or what?
Maleficent Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I think she deserves to be with someone who know 100% he wants to be with her. Now whether this implies you should break up with her or grow out of this whole feeling you're having - it's up to you to decide. I really don't see how being with her would stop you from partying a little and going out with friends.
Author Chs Posted September 24, 2014 Author Posted September 24, 2014 You're right she does deserve someone that knows 100% But there's no perfect relationships and everyone has experienced doubt at some point. And yes Jules that's exactly what i want. It is a new feeling, at least during this relationship. I just don't think im ready for a REAL long term commitment, haven't ran my horns off yet (neither has she, i'm the only experience she has, what if im a giant douche and she could do much better? Who knows)
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 In my look at peeps, many fleeting moments are just that. Guys get them like girls. if you were 100 % you would have been with your girl not the guys for fun like that. Either find your connection with your mate or tell her the truth and break off.
Author Chs Posted September 24, 2014 Author Posted September 24, 2014 Can't say i understand that logic at all, why would i not go out with friends because i have a girlfriend? We both go out often, she's going out this saturday while i'll be at home chilling. There's nothing healthy about excluding outside fun from your life while in a relationship.
soyou Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 (edited) I used to be in your shoes so here this is my 5 cent of advice. You should break up with her because 1) then she will be able to find somebody who makes 100%commitment to her 2) you can live up to your youth. I was constantly in relationship from the age of 18 till 25 ( 2x3 years relationship). I always felt like that i was missing out all the fun out there. I did not play around to the max. I did not do all types of crazy stuff sexually and experience just crazy experience being single. I felt like i wanted to spend more time learning about myself, exploring life in every single way alone (not being involved with anyone) While i was single, I always prayed that my "the one" shouldnt come to early cos I was not by any means to settle down. So far the decision of staying single has been one of the wisest decisions of my life. I've travelled around a lot. I've met a lot of beautiful people.i've partied up side down from Ibiza, London, to New York with many epic and unforgettable moments. I've smoked weeds, snipped coke, used drugs. I've tried many type of sex adventures ( one night stand, 3some, 4some, orgies, many different nationalities) I've satisfied my curiosity mind till the max. I've been able to build a very good career. I've been able to understand myself, what I want in life and in a partner. I've become very confident and witty in many ways. As I'm writing this, I'm still happily single (29 years) but I know that I'm "almost" ready for a settled down life if I meet the man of my life ;-) Edited September 24, 2014 by soyou
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