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He broke it off. I acted crazy and he ignored me.

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So basically, me and this guy have been dating for a good 3 months. We really liked eachother and we talked many times about having a relationship. We were heading towards there, but he is depressed. He has issues going on and he broke up with me last week because he cant handle a girlfriend right now. I was so cool about it and told him I would be there for him. He's sleep deprieved and rarely sleeps. He has mood swings and isn't thinking properly. We stopped talking for 5 days and I texted him on Sunday. We hung out and I texted him after I dropped him off home. I asked him if we should still text cuz we used to text 24/7. He said not as much and said I'll talk to u tomorrow and he never hit me up so I texted him first and had a convo with him. I asked him if he minds that we talk and he says not at all. I'm like idk I feel like if I don't text u first u wouldn't text me first. He's like its fine. I'm like would u he's like yea I would. So I let it go and continued talking, but then he was being quiet and I told him he's a horrible texter.

Him: I know I'm tired

Me: I don't know I just feel like I'm always annoying you. So basically I got emotional. He didn't answer so I brought up another conversation and he answered back to what I said, but he ignored the part where I said I feel like I'm annoying you. So I'm like listen if I'm annoying you just tell me he's like holy **** if your going to keep asking that stop texting me and I said why r u being such an ******* and he said because you keep asking every five ****ing minutes. I got so embarrassed, I was like I'm sorry u didn't seem too interested in talking my bad I'll stop I didn't mean to bother you. He NEVER answered my text, and it's been a day. I acted vunerable and psycho. I annoyed him and I just wanted him to show me he cared instead of lashing out. I know I should've been a friend instead of creating more problems. I really ****ed up. How do I redeem myself? Did he lose all interest in me? I thought there was hope of us getting back together in the future, but I think I ruined all chances.

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So basically, me and this guy have been dating for a good 3 months. We really liked eachother and we talked many times about having a relationship. We were heading towards there, but he is depressed. He has issues going on and he broke up with me last week because he cant handle a girlfriend right now. I was so cool about it and told him I would be there for him. He's sleep deprieved and rarely sleeps. He has mood swings and isn't thinking properly. We stopped talking for 5 days and I texted him on Sunday. We hung out and I texted him after I dropped him off home. I asked him if we should still text cuz we used to text 24/7. He said not as much and said I'll talk to u tomorrow and he never hit me up so I texted him first and had a convo with him. I asked him if he minds that we talk and he says not at all. I'm like idk I feel like if I don't text u first u wouldn't text me first. He's like its fine. I'm like would u he's like yea I would. So I let it go and continued talking, but then he was being quiet and I told him he's a horrible texter.

Him: I know I'm tired

Me: I don't know I just feel like I'm always annoying you. So basically I got emotional. He didn't answer so I brought up another conversation and he answered back to what I said, but he ignored the part where I said I feel like I'm annoying you. So I'm like listen if I'm annoying you just tell me he's like holy **** if your going to keep asking that stop texting me and I said why r u being such an ******* and he said because you keep asking every five ****ing minutes. I got so embarrassed, I was like I'm sorry u didn't seem too interested in talking my bad I'll stop I didn't mean to bother you. He NEVER answered my text, and it's been a day. I acted vunerable and psycho. I annoyed him and I just wanted him to show me he cared instead of lashing out. I know I should've been a friend instead of creating more problems. I really ****ed up. How do I redeem myself? Did he lose all interest in me? I thought there was hope of us getting back together in the future, but I think I ruined all chances.

 

 

 

 

 

I'm going through the EXACT same thing as you!!! In my opinion, they use ignoring you as a tool to gain power. That's how they gain and keep power over you. It's a narcissists way of thinking, and I think of these men as narcissists. He loves your vulnerability because it makes him feel good about himself. The best thing for you to do is just to go completely NC (No Contact) and not contact him at all anymore. I'm going through the same thing.

 

It hurts a lot. You want their attention and you want their love and no matter what you do or say, nothing works. I think it's best for us to just accept what is. They are who they are and it won't change.

 

We can't change them, but we can change ourselves... and we have to love ourselves enough NOT to contact men like this. They don't deserve the power and they don't deserve our love.

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