Whyfall4nothing Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Hey everyone, so I've kind of taken interest in this girl from class. Its really hard to get to talk to her especially when we're never in the same groups in classes and when class is over, we never leave the room at the same time. I saw her walking to her car and decided to just tell her to have a good night, and this happened the following week as well. Then I finally had the opportunity to be in a group with her and we had to do a mini presentation about our partner, and she seemed to have some fun with it and made some jokes about me. After class I was just getting in my car and I told her to have a good night (When she tells me to have a good night back she always uses my name) After that night we didn't talk, or make eye contact, and if there is an available seat next to me she won't take it. So after class last week we ended up leaving the room at the same time and our cars were parked close together and we made some small talk and then I just started asking how she was, and she seemed to smile a lot and she even asked me things about me like she was taking genuine interest. We must've talked for like roughly almost a half hour after class outside. In my mind I really wanted to ask if she was busy and if she wanted to go somewhere to talk but I thought it might be pushing it a bit. So I left it as that. I told her its been a while since I got to talk to her and she was like yeah its hard to get some one on one time with class but we'll definitely talk again. When she said bye she used my name. I honestly don't think she uses it when she says bye to anyone else. Then the next class she actually I guess sort of jumped into a conversation me and another classmate had but only briefly. Today I got to say bye to her but I know I want to make more of an effort to somehow bump into her again and talk to her and maybe even ask her to hang out or something? Because I'd really like to talk to her outside of class. Any suggestions?
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Next time you see her, walk up to her, pull out your cellphone so that she sees it out in the open, ask her what her number is, type it into your phone and then call her whenever you wish. It's that simple. 2
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted September 24, 2014 Author Posted September 24, 2014 I don't know why I feel like its not as simple, I'm not bad looking or anything but I just feel like it would be so random.
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted September 24, 2014 Author Posted September 24, 2014 I'm pretty sure she is single but I have no idea even if there is interest back, like it seems like it, but wouldn't she go more out of her way to bump into me?
isolatedgothic Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I can really tell you are struggling with this and can see some mixed messages she is sending. Would you be willing to friend her on Facebook? Or another social page that she is on? You can learn a lot about a person that way without asking her out, which is very direct and something you are not ready to do. She is friendly towards you, uses your name, yet doesn't sit by you or make it obvious that her interest level is high, thus the confusion you feel. Try finding her on a social page. See what you can find out, and see if she will accept a friend request.
quidproquo89 Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I can really tell you are struggling with this and can see some mixed messages she is sending. Would you be willing to friend her on Facebook? Or another social page that she is on? You can learn a lot about a person that way without asking her out, which is very direct and something you are not ready to do. She is friendly towards you, uses your name, yet doesn't sit by you or make it obvious that her interest level is high, thus the confusion you feel. Try finding her on a social page. See what you can find out, and see if she will accept a friend request. Sorry, I wouldn't facebook her first. Next time you see her make some conversation and at the end ask if you can have her number. 1
you_can_not_see_me Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone, so I've kind of taken interest in this girl from class. Its really hard to get to talk to her especially when we're never in the same groups in classes and when class is over, we never leave the room at the same time. I saw her walking to her car and decided to just tell her to have a good night, and this happened the following week as well. Then I finally had the opportunity to be in a group with her and we had to do a mini presentation about our partner, and she seemed to have some fun with it and made some jokes about me. After class I was just getting in my car and I told her to have a good night (When she tells me to have a good night back she always uses my name) After that night we didn't talk, or make eye contact, and if there is an available seat next to me she won't take it. So after class last week we ended up leaving the room at the same time and our cars were parked close together and we made some small talk and then I just started asking how she was, and she seemed to smile a lot and she even asked me things about me like she was taking genuine interest. We must've talked for like roughly almost a half hour after class outside. In my mind I really wanted to ask if she was busy and if she wanted to go somewhere to talk but I thought it might be pushing it a bit. So I left it as that. I told her its been a while since I got to talk to her and she was like yeah its hard to get some one on one time with class but we'll definitely talk again. When she said bye she used my name. I honestly don't think she uses it when she says bye to anyone else. Then the next class she actually I guess sort of jumped into a conversation me and another classmate had but only briefly. Today I got to say bye to her but I know I want to make more of an effort to somehow bump into her again and talk to her and maybe even ask her to hang out or something? Because I'd really like to talk to her outside of class. Any suggestions? All this overthinking and overanalyzing is very familiar to me since I am guilty of it myself, but I think its a waste of energy. OP should instead approach the girl at the end of class introduce himself (if she already doesn't know your name) and ask her if she wants to work on some HW or assignment with you and get her number. I have done this quite a few times and the vast majority of girls will have no problem giving you their number and studying with you even if they aren't romantically interested, so its a very risk free thing to do. Although I understand that even going up to the girl and saying the above can be daunting at first, but think of it this way, if you can't do this how do you expect to have any romantic relations with this girl? Edited September 24, 2014 by you_can_not_see_me
Jules Dash Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I don't know why I feel like its not as simple, I'm not bad looking or anything but I just feel like it would be so random. You are thinking it is not that simple because you have a fear of approaching her that you are going to have to overcome unless you want one of your gutsier classmate to beat you to it. It won't feel good when you see her leaving the class holding his hand next week. The typical guy who fears approaching a woman says things like "it is hard for me to get a chance to talk to her" or she is always on her cellphone. No one is always occupied and if they are, you have to have the guts to intervene to get what you want. I wouldn't set up myself as anyone else other than someone who wants to date her. If you walk up to her, say hi, and pull out your phone as I described above, she will give you her number. I promise you. In any situation she is in she will give it to you. The only reason she will not give you her number is if she has no phone. Trust me. You will catch her off guard, she will still be processing that situation as she reflexively rattle off her number, she will not know your intentions (this is why she will give you her number even if she has a boyfriend) and have no reason to object and you will have the safety of already being her classmate and was in a group project with her. It will work. You will then have her number and no more excuses to not get her on a date. 1
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted September 25, 2014 Author Posted September 25, 2014 I will definitely try this, although now I am very much so questioning whether as to if she is indeed single. PLOT TWIST….I did kind of creep on her Facebook, and no I didn't add her. But it was pretty private but it said "Married in 2008". She seems pretty available, maybe she just changed it to that like some girls do. I can't see what the status is now though because that is private. She was available enough that she stayed almost a half hour after class to talk without rushing home so…..I think I still got this…
you_can_not_see_me Posted September 25, 2014 Posted September 25, 2014 I will definitely try this, although now I am very much so questioning whether as to if she is indeed single. PLOT TWIST….I did kind of creep on her Facebook, and no I didn't add her. But it was pretty private but it said "Married in 2008". She seems pretty available, maybe she just changed it to that like some girls do. I can't see what the status is now though because that is private. She was available enough that she stayed almost a half hour after class to talk without rushing home so…..I think I still got this… dude just facebook add her, its no big deal, people do it all the time.
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted October 1, 2014 Author Posted October 1, 2014 Update: Today there were 2 seats one beside the door, where she usually sits if she's late and one by me which was kinda close to the other. she picked the seat next to me. On break we talked for a bit, we were just sitting there and she initiated the conversation. Other people in the class were kind of interrupting a bit but she mainly focused on me. I also commented on something she was wearing so she seemed really receptive of it. I was talking to someone else just before class was let out and I was telling them a story and it seemed like she was listening but I guess she thought it was just between me and the other guy so she went to throw some stuff out from break. she came back and I was jokingly saying to her, hey you left before you could hear my story, but she seemed really concerned and I'm just hoping she didn't think I actually cared lol. Considering I was telling her about it and it looked like she had undivided attention. Anyway I told it to her we walked out of class smiling and talking and then I asked her what she was doing, she asked me about my night, we talked for a bit more. And at the end of the conversation it seemed to linger, kind of like we both didn't want to really go, but it was raining. I guess she parked somewhere different and I was going to drive her to her car if it was far but she said it was just around the corner, so I told her we should text sometime, and she gave me her number. (She doesn't have mine). But when she said bye she told me to have a good night, but I don't think she used my name at this point…which is like the first. But I never use her name and I like her, so maybe its not a big deal. Maybe she was caught off guard I actually asked for it hhaha. So now that I have her number, how do I text her to let her know that its my number?
princess_peach Posted October 1, 2014 Posted October 1, 2014 So now that I have her number, how do I text her to let her know that its my number? Just text her something like, "Hi, it's [your name] :)" The smiley face is optional. That's invariably what I get whenever I give a guy my number and it works just fine on me.
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 I just texted her cause she wasn't in class today just saying hope her day was good and nothing…and she doesn't know I like her. For all she knows it was probably just friendly and yeah nothing yet. So I guess she's probably not interested at all, even though it seems like she loves to talk to me in person.
Assasda Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Try teasing her whenever you get the chance. Just tease her, Basically pretend that she's your little sister, that you'd like to bone. It works
Jules Dash Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 pretend that she's your little sister, that you'd like to bone. It works I know what you are getting at with this but somehow I still feel like I need cleansing just from reading that. 1
Diezel Posted October 3, 2014 Posted October 3, 2014 Try teasing her whenever you get the chance. Just tease her, Basically pretend that she's your little sister, that you'd like to bone. It works I hear this has a 100% success rate in Mississippi.
Author Whyfall4nothing Posted October 3, 2014 Author Posted October 3, 2014 Haha well I would try this if she responds to my text. I realize girls get busy too with their lives and she wasn't in class that day so it must have been for a good reason. In person we have really good conversations, but our last conversation was good but it didn't leave me with completely good vibes. She was the one who initiated a conversation at break after we were just sitting by each other for like 2 min without talking haha. so she does want to talk to me. But my goal for that day was to get her number so I needed to say something to her to get conversation going so I could walk out of class with her. Earlier I was talking to another friend in class telling them a story and she seemed to be listening but then I guess went to the bathroom or something. So when it was time to approach her I playfully, maybe in my mind it was playful cause i was tired and didn't use a lot of expression haha, but i just said hey you didn't get to listen to my story, you just dipped haha, then she looked at me like she was concerned like that she didn't like making me feel like she wasn't listening so then she like gave me her undivided attention the entire time. And laughed and seemed into it. Then when we got outside it was raining so i didn't want to keep her in the rain, we talked for a bit and i asked her what she was doing, she told me and then asked me back, so she wasn't in a super hurry. Then it came to a point where we were kind of lingering so I popped the question for her number and she gave it to me. Then when she said bye she said have a good night. She usually uses my name but i don't think she did this time….maybe she did but I'm kind of thinking no…. Am I missing something….it really seems like she is interested..?
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