cubano Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 i have lost a considerable amount of weight (about 45 pounds) over the last several months, and am very near my goal weight. not that i was hideous before, and i was never the wallflower type, but i also wasnt the first choice for most girls, and there have been tons of girls i have been attracted to, but havent pursued anything, even flirtation, just because i assumed they wouldnt be interested. i actually never had a problem talking to strangers; it was girls i worked with, went to school with, or otherwise saw regularly that i didnt want to take the chance of rejection. basically, i just kept those girls at arms length. so my question is: there is a girl i work with, and get along very well with, that i am attracted to. she worked with me when i was at my heaviest. so i wonder how to make a shot at getting her to see me differently now that i am a pretty damned handsome guy. i basically just need advice on trying to get her to not view me as "fat co-worker she enjoys working with" to someone she could consider dating.
90s kid Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Congrats on your weight loss! I'm sure she notices that you've been getting in shape. 50 lb weight loss is hard to ignore. Unfortunately, you can't really control how she perceives you or whether she's attracted to you. I don't think you should be actively changing anything about yourself to appeal to this particular woman. Instead, focus on bettering yourself as a whole....stay in shape, dress well, be confident, fun, and personable. If she doesn't notice you then, I'm sure someone else will.
Toodaloo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 she worked with me when i was at my heaviest. so i wonder how to make a shot at getting her to see me differently now that i am a pretty damned handsome guy. i basically just need advice on trying to get her to not view me as "fat co-worker she enjoys working with" to someone she could consider dating. Fat guys can be great too! Chaps can normally get away with carrying a lot more weight than women can... If you are handsome now then you were handsome then! How do you know she views you as the "fat guy" she enjoys working with and not just the "great guy" she works with? Now you have lost all this weight have you also changed your look? As in better fitting shirts and trousers? Go shopping get a girl to help... Actually get her to go shopping with you and get her to help. Tell her that you want some new clothes that show off your new taught bum and make you look good and could she possibly spare an afternoon to trudge round shops and check out your backside? If your feeling very cheeky and happy tell her that you will return the favor if she wants.
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