Kid_Charlemange Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 I've never dated anyone at work, so I'm not sure how this works. I'm 51, a woman at a small company that I consult for is about the same age. I know she's unattached. She's kinda attractive in a beachy bit of way. I've been working there, p/t, for over a year, and we've always been friendly. Lately she's made a few comments that make me wonder if I'm being flirted with. For instance, she loves the beach, and goes several times during the summer. A few weeks ago, I made some comment about how I hadn't been to the beach in a couple of years, and missed it. "Well let's go!" she said, with a big grin. Then last week I mentioned I have an upcoming gig in Canada, and that I'd be there for three weeks. "Oooh, Halifax sounds great," she said, "I'm invited, right?" And a couple of times she's invited me out to happy hour on a Friday; that's a group thing at work so it wouldn't be one-on-one. I honestly can't tell if just being fun/friendly or if this is actual flirting. Do people at offices even date in this era of sexual harassment and lawsuits? She's not a supervisor and I don't report to her (I report directly to the CEO).
OwMyEyeball Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Sounds like friendly office comradery to me. All the same, you should take her up on some of those offers just to at least befriend her. Making friends from your 30s onward seems to be tough, so I'd jump at any opportunity to get out there and make new connections - provided I'm in the mood 1
jay1983 Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 I can't really tell either. I say go for it anyway.
CaliGypsy Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Could be either. It sounds more like flirting/ interest to me . If you like her, and there is no rule against it , why not take her up on one if her offers ? It certainly sounds like she likes you !
truth_seeker Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 She's flirting with you in a "I'd like to fool around with you" but disguising it as "That's just me being flirty" in case you might reject her or she loses interest. If you want to sleep with her or hook up outside in your car, I suggest taking her up seeing her outside of work when she brings it up. Get a couple of glasses of wine in her then tell her you're just like Wade Boggs - the connoisseur of cunnilingus - and if her eyes widen, go to town. If not, just blame it on the alcohol.
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 I can't get inside HER head but if it were ME saying those things it would be my lame attempt at letting you know I'm into you. I don't think I'd go out of my way to say those things if I didn't at least have some interest in getting you outside the office to see if we hit it off. Office romances can be tricky so tread carefully and be sure to always conduct yourself with dignity and class. Good luck! 1
Ami1uwant Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Hard to tell....if you are interested in seeing if something is there take her up omn her suggestion.
Author Kid_Charlemange Posted September 23, 2014 Author Posted September 23, 2014 I don't think I'd go out of my way to say those things if I didn't at least have some interest in getting you outside the office to see if we hit it off. Yeah that's pretty much how I saw it. Once, could be nothing, but twice... plus the happy hours. I tease her a lot -- she's really short, as in, 4-11. She seems to like it. I don't see her as GF material, but it'd be fun to hang out some time. I guess the best way is to call her bluff next time! Thanks for the input. 1
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