lovesickgirl Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I had been with my ex for 2 years almost 3. I'm 26, hes 28 Everyone's relationships I understand has ups and downs. Sometimes I feel ours is like a roller coaster of highs and lows. We had broken up for a month back in June and decided that we really wanted to be together again and rekindled the relation with better respect for eachother. Everything has been fine, little fits here and there but nothing major. One night a week ago he goes to a football game without me (I was fine with that) but was hoping to see him after the game and meet up for drinks. He had been talking to me fine up till the point where I asked "So where we meeting up?" he cuts me off completely. Stops talking to me for 48 hours!!!!!! then calls to tell me he wants space and that I smother him and he simply didnt want to be bothered by me. Few days go by, I leave him alone but realized it was MY BIRTHDAY in 4 days and hes still being cold. I called him to see what the plans were for my special day and he says he's taking me to dinner and thats it, doesnt want to do anything past that and wants to go party with his friends.................. I was so upset I told him I wanted to break up and he tells me hes been unhappy for months (which I think is a lie!) I'm devastated. He cancelled our vacation plans we had in a week and in November, said things like I don't want a serious relationship anymore and the girl I end up with will be independent person!? That he wants to hang with the guys and bro out? His friends are ALL MARRIED or ENGAGED but HIM?! It's been 4 days and i've been trying my best to enjoy my birthday weekend, move on be happy not let him affect me. Last night I went to a house party for football game sunday and guess what, HE SHOWS UP TO THE PARTY! He came in happy and excited then the minute he saw me he represses and seriously took a chair at the corner of the room and stared out the window and told his friends he wanted to leave. I was appalled and hurt. I was smiling having a good time not showing I was upset, after 10 minutes I made my way over to him and asked if I could "escort him" down stairs. he said he was mad at me and that he wanted to be left alone. I said it really hurts to see someone you love and care about be so cold and distant. He then puts his hands around my waist and pulls me in and hugs me deeply we look at eachother and KISS?! Within a moment he says "see you around kiddo and leaves out the door asap" .........I am so lost and confused. I love him to death but I know he has 0 idea what he wants in his life and I do know what I want. I need guidance or an outside view Thanks
mightycpa Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 This is really the only part that has me confused: I told him I wanted to break up You did break up, or you did not? If not, you should, because for whatever reason, that's what he wants you to do. He isn't pulling the trigger, and he's going to make you miserable until you do. You probably have some hope this situation is salvageable. It may be in the short term, but if you want the shortest path from here to happiness, it involves getting rid of him without delay.
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