MapleWish Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 (edited) This is gonna sound pneurotic I know. I'd gone over to the house of a guy I'd had a crush on before. I went with a couple guy friends so my crush and I weren't alone. Basically I told myself before we went over that I was gonna act more aloof (cause he'd been seeming like he wasn't interested completey), when I get over a crush on a guy I like to make it noticeable by my actions. If I used to hug said guy a lot, I'll stop going in for hugs. If I used to stand real close, I'll stand further away etc. my way of saying "I'm over you or getting over you". So we all went over I acted casual, but first was when he did that motion where a guy lightly touches your back when you're walking in the same direction, no biggie but just saying. And I didn't hug him but when we were all standing around talking he looks at me and says "where's my hug" so I gave him one and the way he hugged me was different. Our hugs were usually quick and not a lot of squeezing but this time he squeezed and actually held on longer, I felt myself pull away cause I was used to his quick hugs but I felt him still holding, even had a simultaneous side hug and walk thing happen for a few seconds, I had my hand resting on his chest kinda like couples do when they're hugging. Honestly does a change in the way a guy hugs you mean anything?? It's just a hug I know but I hug people differently depending how I feel about them Edited September 22, 2014 by MapleWish
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Some guys are huggy. Maybe he is showing his affection more than just hugging. Like some peeps say Hi and others say HI! Though, I would think by your reaction to too much, he should have noted and held back a bit on the next one. That part kind of makes me a bit uncomfortable if I were to trust him in other things in personal nature. Unless someone has his hand on you're arse when making a hug, I think you're OK... but that is under your discretion and to how much passion you're sharing.
Author MapleWish Posted September 22, 2014 Author Posted September 22, 2014 Naw he just NEVER hugged me like that, yea he's friendly but every time he'd hug me it was quick nothing special and this last time it was different, felt like a cozier hug
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 So, he feels comfortable in being more expressive. If it throws you off as being to touchy feely every time he does that, you may just be honest in telling him he is being to assertive. Too bad he is not picking up, your body communication. It is hard to tell someone that they are going beyond your comfort zone.
pteromom Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Not necessarily. It could have been he was just craving physical touch at the moment and you were there. Don't read into things. If he asked you out after he hugged you, then he likes you. If he didn't, assume he doesn't. Otherwise, you just build up expectations that can be dashed. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 A light quick hug is platonic. A full on body hug, especially if your hips are flush is sexual. There is a lot of grey in between.
Gloria25 Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Have you paid attention to how he hugs other people? Maybe if his hug is different towards you, then yeah, could be he is treating you differently...
Assasda Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I think he was flirting with you a little bit. Does he do that with everyone, or are you the exception?
Diezel Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 If the hug lasts long enough that you can feel his erection, then it means something.
Keenly Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 For me : platonic hugs are one arm, while anything else is two. 1
GorillaTheater Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 For me : platonic hugs are one arm, while anything else is two. Also, there's a pretty big difference between the A-frame hug and a full-on boob-mash hug. 2
todreaminblue Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Do you like that he touched you?(lol that sounds sort of creepy.....do you like that he shows you affection sounds better) if you do , and i dont think you are over him, you could always just let it go where it will.....it could progress to him asking you out or it might not......you could say ....any closer and you owe me a date in a teasing manner.....if he falls over himself to get away from you and skids into a disappearing act...you have your answer.... if you feel uncomfortable at any time with his affection ......let him know privately.....wait for a chance to speak with him alone and say hey...i really dont appreciate what you are doing......i would like it if you stopped touching me please.....deb
Emilia Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 When I dated a man that was absolutely not into PDA, I noticed from the way he changed the hug over time that it indicated how he felt about me. Initially it was a one arm or 'A-frame' light hug that would develop into a full body hug with both his arms around me and his face on my cheek. So yeah, hugs mean a lot.
Haydn Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Emilia you are spot on. I know when a hug from a girl means a bit more. That slight stroking around the small of the back........... 1
me85 Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Yes and no. Hard to say without actually knowing the guy and his personality. I mean, do you notice him hugging other girls the same way? One can usually tell if a look or a touch coming from someone else means, like, "let's get it on" lol Not always, I know but usually...
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