Tayken Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 @OP.....I have never been intimidated by any woman, even when I was in high school. All this talk about "out of one's league" is BS, and I have to ask what exactly this is based on? I am a well educated, confident, strong, well traveled man amongst other things who has done a lot more in life in my 40s than most men my age and older....so why on earth would I perceive someone as being out of my league? I can only imagine that you definition of the phrase is based solely on looks and looks only? What good is someone of the opposite sex who only has looks going for them? Personally, they are as useful to me a #2
Dork Vader Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 OP just go for it what is the worst that could happen? He say he's not interested? How do I say this... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is the simple truth to life. Some people are overly concerned with having a trophy wife that matches societies ideals of what attractive is. Some people only care about meeting someone they find beautiful, fun and so on. Yeah you'll get rejected but you're going to get rejected by people no matter what "league" you think they are in. All you can do in life is try and be happy with the results and the fact that you had the courage and confidence to do it.
Tayken Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 OP just go for it what is the worst that could happen? He say he's not interested? How do I say this... Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that is the simple truth to life. Some people are overly concerned with having a trophy wife that matches societies ideals of what attractive is. Some people only care about meeting someone they find beautiful, fun and so on. Yeah you'll get rejected but you're going to get rejected by people no matter what "league" you think they are in. All you can do in life is try and be happy with the results and the fact that you had the courage and confidence to do it. Hopefully the OP doesn't think like this when trying to apply for more important things in life.....like er, a job opportunity?? Don't call us, we will call you is not the end of the world. It's just another obstacle, leap over it
JuneJulySeptember Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Hopefully the OP doesn't think like this when trying to apply for more important things in life.....like er, a job opportunity?? Don't call us, we will call you is not the end of the world. It's just another obstacle, leap over it If you were a C student and you applied to Harvard 1000 times, you'd get rejected 1000 times, and you'd have to pay the application fee every time. Blindly approaching women who are 9s and 10s and way out of your league is not smart. That said, the majority of men and ESPECIALLY those men who are on forums telling stories of rejection are mostly asking out average to cute women they feel are fairly within reach. I can tell you that right away. Women who are 6s and 7s and think they are WAAAY out of the league of a guy who is a 4, that is another topic of conversation.
Cristo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 So my self esteem really isn't through the roof like some girls and I'm always worried I'm going for guys "out of my league" that being said do you guys even believe in leagues or is that all bull? for example I like a guy who's just a little younger than me but way attractive and really fit, obvious he works out and more than I do but I'll still go for runs. is going for a guy who's more physically fit than me (you could call him a sort of gym rat) "out of my league". As for attractive I'm not the typical Megan fox looking girl. I'm not ugly but I don't look like the normally seen curly hair yoga pant wearing buckle American eagle girls, to put into perspective, like every actress in the hills or whatever. I thought about saying eff it and just go for it what's the worst that could happen but embarrassing myself is one cause of the whole out of my league thing, my last bf was really skinny cause he ran track but he wasn't a gym rat, I don't mind a good workout but I'm not a gym rat Just look around you. Yes, leagues exist. People date the best that they can get. With that said, you can certainly date out of your league (I know I have). So give it a shot, but I wouldn't hold my breath.
GravityMan Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 "Leagues" may or may not exist. The problem is that too many people care about that crap. People who care about so-called "leagues" are unnecessarily handicapping their potential dating options. They also tend to have insecurity issues. Confident people rise above and transcend that stuff...they don't give leagues a second thought. Leagues are like unhealthy, unsightly fat. Trim away the fat, it just gets in the way.
Cristo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 So your definition of "out of my league" hinges solely on weight and body type? What about character, confidence, personality, career or ambitions, finances, family values, social circle or standing, etc? Is this just about looks then? Yes. When people refer to leagues, they are generally referring to looks. This fits from what I've seen. People seem to couple based on their looks.
Cristo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Leagues are sad part of dating. Sure, there are exceptions, but in general, a vast, vast majority of people date someone who is within one or two "notches" of themselves. This is why movie stars date and marry other movie stars: Because they can. That said, I wouldn't worry about it. What's the worst that can happen? The guy says he's not interested, and you move on. Sure, it feels like crap... for a little while... then you move on. I also think the league thing is wildly skewed depending on gender. That is, very few men are going to be anything but flattered if any woman shows interest in him. And virtually none will be cruel. In contrast, hot women at bars are notoriously cruel, as just about any man who's tried that route can tell you. Go for it. Maybe it's just me, but I've never had women be very mean to me at bars (at least, not that I can recall) unless I did something to cause that reaction. Also, again, just speaking for myself, but I am definitely not flattered when a girl that I don't find attractive shows interest in me. It usually makes me uncomfortable and I just want to leave.
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