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I'm a male 28 year old young professional living in New York. I met a girl yesterday through a mutual friend whom I immediately felt an attraction towards. We spoke to one another for around 30 minutes at a bar and ironically had a lot in common. Both from the same area in Florida. We both graduated from the same college. She also ironically knows my younger sister. ect....

 

I did not have the opportunity to get her phone number from her. I felt as though it may have been a little too forward to ask her for that so suddenly after just meeting. We did however become friends on facebook.

 

since Facebook is our only true means of communication as of now, I am thinking i should send her a message saying something along the lines of "nice meeting you, i had a great time at the bar..." ect ect - something along those lines.

 

would it be too forward for me to flat out ask her to get coffee or something? We really only met for about 30 mins and dont know each other super well. would that be out of line?

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It was definitely okay to ask for her number at the bar. It would have definitely been okay to ask for it if she was a complete stranger who you began talking to on the street for only 5 minutes. There is no harm in this.

 

Ask for her number on Facebook then call her to ask her out.

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I did not have the opportunity to get her phone number from her.

Yes you did, and you'd better get used to answering the door when opportunity knocks, especially in NY.

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Yes you did, and you'd better get used to answering the door when opportunity knocks, especially in NY.

 

It was knocking and he told another guy at the bar to get the door.

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You must have trouble getting dates if you are that uncertain to ask a lovely for her number. Confidence is very attractive to women don't ya know.

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It was definitely okay to ask for her number at the bar. It would have definitely been okay to ask for it if she was a complete stranger who you began talking to on the street for only 5 minutes. There is no harm in this.

 

Ask for her number on Facebook then call her to ask her out.

 

This.

 

If you need an excuse say something like "I'd like to chat to you more, and I dont chat on facebook, whats your phone number"

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