bolase Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Hi Loveshackers, I'll try to keep this short. Late last year, after a bad breakup, I tried Tinder and matched with a guy while I was travelling in my country. We had an amazing time talking, like nothing I'd known before. Quickly realised we lived in different cities but agreed to meet at some point. We sent each other Christmas and Valentines' presents, but kept it lighthearted and fun not at all serious. Then in January he told me he'd been accepted into the army and would being training in Feb. We wrote letters from then until his mid-training break in May..and what letters! I may be the only girl in my country this century to fall in love through letters. We sent pictures and wrote fiction and told daily stories, we shared the dark secrets in our lives; most of all we felt as equals and and had amazing chemistry without being too explicit with each other...he would tell me what he wanted to do to me but never past stroking my hair or rubbing my back. I had to work all weekend when he came to my city in break. The night we were scheduled to meet, his host family put on a dinner so we couldn't, I was upset because of the ancipation. So we only had 12 hours together, the next night, we wandered the town and he stayed with me and we just cuddled agreeing it was too much to go too far. We wrote again, but the second time he came to visit me, he again changed plans at the last minute. He only had 2 days not 7. I was busy one of those days and he thought I would be free for him but I was so frustrated at the changes and the limited time. We ended up arguing about how it wouldn't work out (me), how it would (him), and he stayed but it wasn't the same magic. He then wanted to see me again, but I said it wouldn't work; I was sure of it. I had a boyfriend after that for a few months who I met in my town but broke up with a few weeks ago because I knew I wouldn't love him. I still love the first guy, and he called me last week out of hte blue from his base but didn't seem to talk about much. I texted him afterward asking is he was over it or if I would see him again. He told me he isn't over it, but has to sort out his life. He wants to buy a house in the city I used to live in and might go back to, as an investment there, so we might see each other if I live there again. I have sent him a few snapchats and a message in the last week but he's barely responded. Should I just let it go until/if he contacts me? Or make a declaration of some kind?
cif Posted September 27, 2014 Posted September 27, 2014 Leave it be for now. Nothing will change unless/until you live in the same area.
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