blue_jay_bird Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 I'm not getting what I want from this relationship. We have been together for 2-3 months. I want conversations that won't end. I want crazy laughter. I want him to tell me how something anything makes him feel. I think I'm sticking around because I believe it's in there somewhere. I'm like a bunny with a carrot dangling in front of its face. Aside from leave him, which I don't want to do. I understand that this relationship is most likely not going to work out because of these feelings I have. But I want to try. How do I ask tell him how I feel without sounding like I'm blaming him?
Gloria25 Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 IMO, men do not communicate like women...they are more stoic. But, there are guys who have joyful personalities (humorous I guess) and if this guy isn't that guy, I don't believe you can "mold" him into what you want. Dating is to find out if you're a match...IMO. Not beating someone into what you want. If communication, someone expressing their feelings, and/or have a sense of humor is important to you - then not sure if digging into this guy to "find" that is gonna work for you.
Assasda Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Its all so vague, your post. How old are you guys? Do you start conversations? How does he treat you otherwise? so very very vague
FitChick Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 If you want endless conversations, date a Gemini.
mightycpa Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 That is an imaginary carrot in front of your face. 2 - 3 months of dating would be enough for him to do that if a) he likes you enough to do it or b) he's even capable of doing this at his age, whatever that age is You could try to train him, but if you do, you'll really just be training him for the next girl.
moie Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Oh hey OP, just be careful, I am the type of mysterious guy who keep secrets and play mind games. I have jeopardized multiple relationships prior to their fruition. I did it to keep myself interesting, as well as hide my flaws, which I am now learning isn't really that big of a deal if a girl really likes me. I am currently doing this to a friend that got me in a lot of heat with her. But then again, you might be in a different situation. Just don't get too deep, cause once the mystery ends that guy might get really boring.
Yookie Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I'm not getting what I want from this relationship. We have been together for 2-3 months. I want conversations that won't end. I want crazy laughter. I want him to tell me how something anything makes him feel. I think I'm sticking around because I believe it's in there somewhere. I'm like a bunny with a carrot dangling in front of its face. Aside from leave him, which I don't want to do. I understand that this relationship is most likely not going to work out because of these feelings I have. But I want to try. How do I ask tell him how I feel without sounding like I'm blaming him? The bolded parts of what I quoted are what you need to focus on. Stop making excuses to keep him in the picture. 2-3 months is nothing. Don't waste 2-3 years to come to the same conclusion. Stop calling him. Stop answering his calls and texts. Lose his number. Activate all evasive maneuvers! P.S. You cant change him even if you try to word it nicely.
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