solong123 Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 My 3 year relationship ended a few days ago. It ended for a variety of reasons, some main ones included him not being able to compromise or talk about problems in a mature manner. I am 22 and he is 27, and I have always been more mature for my age and also have been in serious relationships before. He had one relationship back in high school that was serious but nothing again before dating me. I think I just expected him being older meant he was more mature but that just wasnt the case, and the friends he was surrounded by were still trying to live in their college days. I guess I am really just trying to vent here. I feel it was definitely the best thing to happen, but it still hurts right now. I feel like he did not even try to mature or grow, which makes me see how much he did not care. That is why I dont know why I care so much, I want to just be over feeling this way. The cons honestly outweigh the pros but I am still sitting here sad and missing him. Is this just something that really gets easier with time?
lyndaaxo Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Break ups are hard, regardless of who ended it and whether it was the best thing or not. Things do get better with time, you just need to focus on yourself for now and try to not let things remind you of him.
ja123 Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Yes, things will get better. There's hope! I've been through the end of an 8 yr live-in relationship and survived. Most recently, it has been a mere 3-month relationship and I'm actually missing the guy. haha I've determined that perhaps it's less about the "guy" himself and what I might have been hoping it (relationship)/him to be. It's good that you can see that there were more cons, and that you are respecting yourself by getting out and moving forward. That takes a lot of strength! But, it's only normal that you are going to feel grief and miss him. Reach out to family and friends during this time. Keep busy. Exercise. Perhaps even look at joining some meetup dot com groups. Do something for yourself that you've always wanted to do. baggagereclaim is a good site that you might want to check out. Also, You Don?t Miss Him. You Miss The Idea Of Who You Wanted Him To Be. | The Current Conscience As many here, on LS, will tell you NC (no contact) is advisable to make a speedier recovery. Hang in there! There are brighter days ahead! 1
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