Jive Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 I met this wonderful girl at a new side job I just started working at this summer. Ever since I started working there, one of my bosses has repeatedly tried pushing this girl onto me, saying "she digs you," "she's freshly single" etc... I just kinda brushed this off since I've been so used to people saying crap like this to me for the 4 years I've been single, but after a while I really started to fall for her. Now it's to the point where I literally can't get her out of my mind, even for a second! One night she was in a meeting with my boss and sent me a facebook message that said "Hey Tim gave us permission to marry. FYI." I was flattered and kept the conversation pretty light after that, kinda poking fun at the whole situation. (at this time I was unsure how I felt about her). Now, like I said, she's all I think about. A few weeks after this I asked her to a baseball game, which she denied since she was flying home from vacation. She was very friendly but we didn't set up a rain check date or anything. Just a short 20 min text conversation about her trip, etc. I figured from this gesture, she would get the idea that I really like her. About a week later she invites me out to her birthday party at a bar. I noticed that I was the only one she invited out from work. I was extremely giddy at this and really, really looked forward to seeing her out and whatnot. Well... I went to the party tonight and only talked to her a few times. It was extremely awkward in that not only was her flippin' EX BOYFRIEND there but I hardly knew anybody. I had to make small talk with tons of people I didn't know and then she repeatedly left me hanging. She'd had a conversation with me one minute, and then be off to 'who-knows-where' the next minute, literally leaving me standing there watching her walk off. She WAS drunk when I got there I should add... I was so turned off and felt so out-of-place that I just left after a couple hours without saying 'bye' to anybody. Ugh, anyone else been in a situation like this? Like I said, I really really like this girl and have strongly been considering asking her out again, but after tonight, I'm not so sure. Especially with her Ex there. It's almost like I got to see a whole different side to her.... I don't know but I'm really bummed out right now and don't know if it's worth chasing after her. I'm so confused after receiving numerous "green light" signals from her.
bolase Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 I would push aside any fears you have over her ex boyfriend being in her life, or not having any concrete signals from her, and ask her to do something specific with you like get a drink after work one day, or if you're braver to go to a show or movie later in the week. Since she invited only you from work to her party it's clear she likes your company. Maybe she thought bringing you even as a friend at this stage would have an effect on the ex...who knows, who cares, you're in a good spot, go have a crack
Assasda Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Dude you sound crazy. Its like in your head she's already your girlfriend. Well, she's not! Dont know why you're mad at the girl for no reason. Her ex was there. Big Deal. The guy could be a nice guy. Slow your horses down, and get to know the girl, before you marry her and claim her as your own in your head
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