Freshboy69 Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Well me and my girlfriend had this conversation a few days ago and decided to take a break from each other: Girlfriend: it just dont feel right us being in a relationship, its got bad, we dont feel close Me : i know Me : den we gotta split up...i dont want u being un-happy wid me if were 2gether,id rather u be happy wid out me Girlfriend: this is gona sound odd but i just feel like im losing you whilst going out with u... i just think being friends wud make it better, like no stress or anything....hmmm...not coming out right....see what im saying Me: so u wanna just be friends Girlfriend: but are we going to be friends? I dont want to lose u altogether Now that we have broken up, I feel strange...sometimes I think oh well I got her I can get other girls as well...but at other times I think...I miss her a lot and would do anything to get her back... Here is where I need help: -She says she still has feelings for me and maybe we could get back to gether in the future -She also talked to me like everyday consistently for 9 months -We both have exams...and a lot of schoolwork to get done...and it is stressful for everyone -We sit by each other at school and it is akward, how should I act when I have feelings for her -She asked me to be friends with her...obv I don't wanna do this...but when i try to explain I do not want to be friends she thinks I am being selfish -I just wanna know what to do to try and get her back...what is the best thing to do...or should I just move on and how should I let her know bout my feelings?
greenhorn Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Dude, I can understand your situation and I must say it's a stressful one. They say that 'Never date you friend and you can never be friend whom you have dated'.See what will happen is that you would be friends with her with the hope that she will come back to you someday and she would be friends with you cause it is perfectly fine for her as she does not want a relation and neither wants to potray herself as a dumper.But this is bad for you and you would be hurt more when you hope dies one day and she starts dating someone else. Don't you realise this is win-win situation for her.You have everything to lose.I have read so many posts here at LS and not in one single situation the girl has ever come back and this is the classic dialogue " I need space" and 'We can be friend' Buddy come out of the quagmire, see things in real light and do what your brain says and not what you heart says in the present situation. Good Luck
Kitty04 Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Sounds like she is just trying to keep you on the back burner, or maybe yo uare both trying to do that to each other? She doesn't want to let you go completely in case the grass isn't greener like she thinks? Wanting someone just because you can't have them is wanting them for the wrong reasons. Pursue her if you love her without a doubt. Be happy she gave you an "out" if this isn't the case. Good luck to you either way--
2003md2 Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Sorry for your pain - we've all been there. Nope, you've gotta move on. You don't wanna be friends - you weren't "friends" before you aren't going to be able to be "friends" now. She's selfish to ask you to do that. She doesn't want to be with you but she wants the comfort of knowing you're around if she needs you. No way. Not fair. To either of you - really. Move on -- start fresh. Sucks that you have to be close in class but that's what happens. Do whatever needs to be done to get through that situation and hopefully you won't be in classes together forever. If that means having some kind of temporary friendship to make things less ackward then fine. You don't owe her anything and don't let her make you feel guilty - you don't have to explain yourself - only do so if it will make YOU feel better and then do so in WHATEVER way makes YOU feel best. She doesn't want to be with you. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. If ya'll were meant to be together you'll work it out in another time and another place b/c things obviously aren't right for you 2 rt now.
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