Janiej Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Hi, I met a wonderful guy online and we have been dating for two months (9 weeks) He still has an active profile however and is online twice a day, which is a little frustrating. I don't have an active membership as I took it down due to finances about when we met - I then didn't worry because I liked him so much. He says all the right things - he wants a committed relationship, he offered to leave out the house key so that I could go into his house if he wasn't there, he talks about us in a years time, talks about me meeting his friends and family etc. Not that any of this has happened.... but its only just been 9 weeks. We are both over 40 - but I haven't dated much and only had 3 partners. He is much more experienced. When do you know if you are actually exclusively seeing someone - would he normally say something? He's Italian and I'm Australian so we have some cultural differences too (more interesting than troublesome though at this stage). He's a very confident person and I am much shyer - but I worry because he is online so much - - is that just a habit for him?
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Hi, I too have a mate that is of different culture. Being about 40 and shy you may not be as outgoing. My mate is a wee older and outgoing but shy as they come. Being online with an active profile means he is not quite done in my opinion. It should not be too difficult to ask him why his profile is active. I am sure that can be discussed. As you are being curious. Outside of that he sounds like a nice gent. It is possible he has made a few acquaintances that still chat so to speak. My LDR does that with facebook. It does not bother me as our relationship is over 3 years now and rock solid. Plus we are on the understanding that there can't be any restrictions. I am the polar opposite with being so friendly so I do this until Holiday is done and go back to my hole in the ground so to speak. Hope the best for you!
Assasda Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Sounds like you guys are ready to get serious. Tell him that you want him for yourself only, and he'll know what that means
lyndaaxo Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 The last guy I was dating who I met on a dating site still had his profile and I'd deleted mine. I hated it so I confronted him and things ended because he wasn't ready for the commitment to just me. Because of this I think if someone is still active on their dating profile they are keeping options open, if you can live with that then fine. If you want more then I'd ask him if he has plans to get rid of it. 1
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