JoL Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 How long after a break up is it okay to date do you think? Is it relative to the length of the relationship or do you think as soon as a relationship is over it's ok to explore other prospects? I know some people go from relationship to relationship, while others spend a few months + to gain their bearings and figure out what they want. Im the latter- i have always (except once, when i only waited a month) ended up, through circumstance mostly, being single for a year between boyfriends. But i know there are the dating ettiquette rules, so what do you all think? How long should you be single between relationships, is any time frame TOO short or too long?
upsetnhurt Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Jol, Whatever happened to your ex that you slept with?
Author JoL Posted March 6, 2005 Author Posted March 6, 2005 Well that night we ended up talking and laughing about the good old times and he told me about the girls he has been dating and we swaped stories from the last year and just caught up..and then one thing lead to another and yes, it happened. We basically agreed that we still have a strong connection with eachother and an attraction, but that we aren't going to go down the road of coupledom again. He basically told me he is glad to have me in his life but doesnt want to fall in love with me again or rekindle any romance. So we are on the same page and both agreed on the reasons it happened and how we feel towards eachother. We are getting along really well, and it was like a long lost best friend had come back into my life. So there is no weirdness from either side and we agreed that we didnt do anything wrong or silly or hurtful, and that we were both just glad to have eachother back as friends. So it worked out well i guess..but it is not something we will do again i dont think- we talk a couple of times a week and just keep in touch, things turned out well.
upsetnhurt Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Just wait till you are horny again ....then we will see if you go back to the same place as before .
CurlyIam Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 FWB: I agree it's a dangerous game to be playing, but there's no rule saying that you should end up burning your fingers. About the dating etiquette: from my pov, there's no such thing. If there were, then ex wouldn't turn your fridnship down because it was,'t a polite thing to do, LOL! It's as you feel it. At times you're down longer, other times you need time for yourself. I think that being single "out of respect" for your ex is crap, especially if you met someone special. I think special people ar very very rare. My sister managed to be single for as long as ... 2 years, between 2 long relationships. It just happened. She met someone the very day she broke with her ex and well... stayed with that person. she was quite young at the time, I remember , LOOL. She's quite a character, I really miss her!
CurlyIam Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Sorry, I meant 2 hours, not 2 years, LOL !!! I was thinking at the length of her previous relationship! Me... uuuuhhhhh, sometimes I wish I could take a break away from me, hahahahhaha!
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