Ami1uwant Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 I agree right down a journal of this and document everything.if this child of your happens you could fight for custody. Her reaction in this situation can be used for her compentsncy as a parent. I would thus on your sister.
Cynicalme Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 What everyone else said. Leave your gf, pay support, get custody/visitation/whatever. Get guardianship of your sister and finish raising her. Oh, and your sister doesn't need a psychiatrist or anti-depressants. She's GRIEIVNG!!!! OF COURSE she's going to be crying, it's only been 3 weeks! What she needs is her big brother's shoulders, arms, security and understanding to help her through this ordeal. And dump the gf. I'm sure your sister feels her resentment. 2
Maleficent Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 First, I am going to say I'm very sorry for your loss. Second, I think what you are doing for your little sister is admirable. You both have suffered a horrible loss and you both need each other. Unfortunately, you are going to have to choose between your sister and your pregnant girlfriend. Only you can make that decision. No one here can choose for you. Good luck! I am going to say that if your girlfriend is so insensitive to something so important to you, chances are it won't be the last time she is a selfish brat.
mightycpa Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I'm going to chime in with everybody else. Tend to your 10 year old sister. Consider this both a test, and an omen. She is asking you to abandon your family in a time of need. If you don't, she will abandon you in your time of need. She wants to know if you think like her. It is a test. She is an abandoner. You got lucky, and found out early. Secure your rights with your child to the extent that you can, then go out, look at the vast night sky and count your lucky stars.
Maleficent Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Your gf is a poor excuse for a human being. Dump her now, adopt your sister, and get a good lawyer ASAP. I hate to play dirty, but it sounds like you're going to have to fight fire with fire. It seems like all she wants is your money at this point. I believe if you fight for 50/50 custody or even full custody, then you won't have to pay child support. I'd start looking into your custody options before the baby is born. Your gf doesn't deserve you, this baby, or your money. Yeah in Canada 50/50 custody means no child support. Though I would be surprized if the gf didn't fight for 100% custody
Yookie Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Please take care of your baby sister. This woman showing her true colors is a blessing in disguise. She is not worthy of being your wife. She has no idea what "FAMILY" means. I'm angry at her response to you wanting to take care of your family situation. :mad:
Hobbes' wagon Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Talk to a good lawyer immediately!!!! Document this, try to entice her/get her to say this in an email or record it in a way it will be admissible in court (the lawyer will help you with this). I think it will be very important in any custody battles you'll have. Start preparing for the custody battle now! Talk to a lawyer, document her horrible behaviour etc., her bad behaviour with your sister, your good behaviour with your sister etc. Make sure the documentation is safe. Get therapy immediately for your sister! After you get the proof you need for your lawyer, break up with the selfish excuse of a human being. In the meantime, carry a VAR on you at all times. I have a feeling she could mention to you something about abortion unless, or that she'll charge you with domestic violence etc. My condolences!
Crila16 Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 OMG!!! First off...I am so sorry about your parents. My heart is breaking for you. Second...Your sister is your responsibility. She just lost both her parents at such a young age. She needs you more than ever. DO NOT put her on anti-depressants. It's the worst thing you could do. She needs to feel it and mourn it. My friend's parents both died within 3 months of each other. The dr's immediately put her on anti-depressants. She finally went off them, and now is more depressed than ever. She said she wished she never went on them and just mourned the way we all have to mourn when we lose a parent. Going on anti-depressants never allowed her to mourn properly, and it's now hitting her 3 years later. The after effects of anti-depressants can effect you for more than a year. My mom lost her mom at 5 yrs old and her dad at 7. Her older sister was 10 and 12 yrs old. They grew up to be happy and healthy without medication. Third...your horrible girlfriend has a black heart. I'm so angry that she would even suggest something so cruel and heartless. She's selfish and self-centered. I don't even know you, and I want to take in and hug your sister. Your girlfriend just told you who she really is. Horrible and heartless. I don't like her. I wish you could get rid of her. She should be taking care of your sister and welcoming her with open arms, like it were her child.
Crila16 Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 Oh...and you're girlfriend is so horrible...I'd make sure she's not lying about being 1 month pregnant.
Keenly Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 What kind of evil woman would threaten you with leaving and taking your kid because she isn't getting her way? Just remember that if you picked your girlfriend, and you won't, she will pull this stunt again, and again, and again. Anytime some one threatens to leave you and tries to use walking out the door as a bargaining chip, let that person go. Its emotional manipulation. 1
PinkInTheLimo Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 I am less radical about the reaction of your girlfriend because I think that this is an extremely tragic situation and such situations also push people to the extreme. First of all I want to express my condolences on the passing of your parents. This is terrible, I am so sorry. Secondly, I think that you should indeed take care of your sister and certainly not put her in a foster home. So this should have absolute priority and you should tell that to your girlfriend. At the same time, put yourself in the shoes of your girlfriend. Since you are 24 I presume that she is also somewhere early twenties so really still a very young woman. She is pregnant for the first time and she is in her first month which means that she finds herself confronted with a totally new situation for her, one that is exciting but also frightening at the same time. Happens this accident with your parents. If your girlfriend and your parents got on well she probably is also suffering right now. Also I guess she was looking forward to play house with you and now she will also have to take care of your sister, who is 14, which is in itself a difficult age, but is also grieving and depressed (totally understandable). I think that what you guys are facing right now, you, your sister and your girlfriend is very tough and it would probably be best if you find some psychological and social assistance to help you looking for a situation which is best for everyone.
No Limit Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 I'm very sorry that you got this slut of a GF pregnant. A real snake that one. No, she isn't worth being kept.
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