Jet8419 Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 Some time back I posted about a guy who was giving mixed signals when we went out for dinner a few times and it's concluded he's not interested despite his physical moves. He didn't respond to my last text a month ago asking him when we could arrange to play golf together even though he agreed before, and so I've since given up on him. A few days ago, he suddenly texted me asking if I'm still job-hunting (he knew I was looking to get into his company before) and I said yes. He requested me to send him my CV without giving a reason, until I asked him and he said there could be a vacancy in his company and he's trying to help me get in. So my question is, after having ignored me for so long, surely the last person he wants to see at work would be me? How awkward is it going to be working in the same office as someone who was blowing hot and cold with me? Do I just pretend nothing happened?
evanescentworld Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 No. You contact the HR department and check to see whether there really IS a vacancy, in which department and to whom you should address your application. IF you really do want a job there. Don't go through him. If there IS a job and he pulls strings for you to get it, you will owe him something (in his eyes, anyway). If there is NO job - he's just after manipulating you and getting information he's not entitled to. If you think working there would be so awkward, do nothing.
d0nnivain Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 How good are you at emotional compartmentalizing? If you can view him as a friend / mentor & nothing else, turning off all romantic feelings as though they don't exist, it should be fine.
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 Two words: referral bonus. There's nothing awkward or romantic going on here, so look into the job and good luck!
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