newby Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 i dont know if i am just going through stages of the ending things process, but, i just, now just absolutely hate him! i am really angry and i dont really know why or if i have a right to be really. i ended it i said thats it now just get on with our lives and yet i still continued to try to talk to him about it which he wasnt up for but then why should he be, when i said i wanted it over and wanted to forget about it? then he has not bothered speaking to me at all he is just happy to forget the whole thing, well of course he is! so why am i angry??? he lied to me in the begginning about leaving etc and about where their relationship stood and about his feelings for me and "it just feels so right" etc, but in the end he was pretty honest about not leaving and about where we stood. so WHY am i angry????????
westernxer Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 It's just a normal reaction. Love makes us vulnerable, and it's hard when things go bad. Think of it as an emotional roller coaster... just make sure to buckle up and enjoy the ride, and remember that you're not the only one standing in line.
newby Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 i seriously feel so mad at him i feel like i'm going to say something to him!!!!!!!!! i'm soooo angry!!
kkat Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Newby, Live from "those who can't do teach..." - my two cents: I'm sorry you are feeling bad around feeling angry. But, while this is unfortunately an unpleasant part of the process it's actually good news! Why? Because it's one of the stages and until you go through this one you can't finish your process. This is the time to vent as much as you can here, in a journal, anything to get it out, and hopefully, by doing so, be able to vent without reinitiating contact. I'm feeling a bit angry again now myself so I appreciate you sharing your post - it helped me remember that maybe for me I am going through this stage (unfortunately again!) and that I will be in the happy place again soon! Try to create a good plan for the next few days to treat yourself well, whatever that means for you. You may get through this stage more quickly than you expect. Good thoughts!
newby Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 thankyou so much for your great replies, yes its a good thing i am finally seeing the whole thing in perspective. thats why i am angry, i just realised exactly how appallingly i was being treated there!!i must have been blind!!maybe its also a good sign as it means i am getting some self esteem back, i realise i was worth more than that!
newby Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 thankyou westernxer and kkat, i actually feel quite alot better now! and very glad i didnt contact him!!
nextel Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 You are angry now, but think of how he will feel when it finally sinks in that you no longer want to have anything to do with him. He who laughs first, does not laugh the longest
lynnered Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Originally posted by newby i dont know if i am just going through stages of the ending things process, but, i just, now just absolutely hate him! i am really angry and i don't really know why or if i have a right to be really. i ended it i said thats it now just get on with our lives and yet i still continued to try to talk to him about it which he wasnt up for but then why should he be, when i said i wanted it over and wanted to forget about it? then he has not bothered speaking to me at all he is just happy to forget the whole thing, well of course he is! so why am i angry??? he lied to me in the begginning about leaving etc and about where their relationship stood and about his feelings for me and "it just feels so right" etc, but in the end he was pretty honest about not leaving and about where we stood. so WHY am i angry???????? newby!!! U will be OK , I'm angry as well ,sad ,happy once in awhile, he will realize ,what he lost &doesn't deserve ...U i went to the bookstore today ,spent about 100$ 4 books , why ur life sucks &what u can do about it i used to miss him ...but my aim is improving list urself (list making as a way to self discovery) closing th deal(2 married guys take u from single miss 2 wedded bliss) ill let you know if any helpful!! i do agree angrier is a part of the recovery process, i review the relationship in my head over &over again , just keep posting&keep busy!! remember :success truly is the result of good judgment. good judgment is the result of experience, and experience is often the result of bad judgment anthony robbins
Sad Flower Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 How coincidental NEWBY, Today I have felt the same exact way you feel!!! I feel angry!!
ww Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Shout shout let it all out...and than tell him to jerk off.
newby Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 thankyou everybody, its so nice to have support here, it makes such a difference ((hugs)) all round. nextel: i think it has already sunk in and he dosnt care long as i keep my mouth shut, thats one of the reasons i am angry lynnered: i really like the title of that one-i used to miss him...but my aim is improving, ha ha, yes please let me know if any are any good everyone thankyou so much xx i dont feel angry anymore just sad, i have completely deleted him off IM but i still see his car everyday outside his house (cant avoid seeing it) havent bumped into him yet i'd rather not but it is inevitable, i cant just pretend he doesnt exist which is annoying, but i guess i can brainwash myself into thinking i dont know him or something, he's just some fat, bald guy that lives down the road
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