Blue Magic Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 Hi everyone im new to this so bare with me please Ok i randomly met this girl about four months ago. I had seen her around a few times before and knew i liked her but never thought nothing would happen between us so basically we ended up getting together through a dating site We talked on the dating site for about three or four days before we eventually swapped numbers and facebooks ect as we got on really well and she had told me she liked me when she saw me around aswell. We text each other back and fourth for about a week and decided we would make plans to go on a date as soon as we both had time so we stayed in contact by text. I didnt here from her then for one full day and the next morning i woke up to a text from her. The text basically said she had been out with friends the previous night and she bumped into her ex (that never treated her right i the first place) and they talked and he had a lot of problems going on and basically wanted her back and she was seriously thinking about giving it a go with him again and that she was sorry and would understand if i was disappointed. So i just text her back and told her i understood where she was coming from and that i was perfectly fine with it and wished her well never expecting to hear from her again. Later that night she text me about how shocked she was by the result of a game that was shown on TV that night and me being polite i responded. The conversations went on by text again for a few days and we decided to meet up. She told me all she could think about the day she went to speak with her ex was meeting up with me so we eventually went out for dinner and a few drinks and both of us agreed we got on really really well. We continued to meet up frequently after the first date she introduced me to her family and friends and brought me to family events with her so i really thought we were going places. But i was wrong. After about three months of dating she told me her head is all over the place that her ex is back on the scene and wants her back AGAIN and shes really confused?? So she broke up with me and wanted to stay friends she said she needed space to clear her head so i gave her what she wanted but she still didnt stay away for too long?? She would text me to meet up for a drink after work and would even bring me back to her appartment with her?? If i dont text her for a day or two and try NC she will always send me a random meaningless text i dont understand?? Im just looking for some advice on what to do here if anyone has been in a simular situation?? I really do like her and i was developing strong feelings for her. Obviously she is still in contact with her ex aswell as me so what do i do from here im really not sure??? I really do want to be with her. Do any of you guys see that happening or am i just wasting my time?? Im 31 and she is 27 by the way.
CC12 Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 She really has no business contacting you and meeting up with you after dumping you for her ex. It's really unfair of her. I hate to assume the worst of people, but it seems like she might be trying to keep you interested in case things don't work out with her boyfriend. I honestly cannot understand the mentality of, "I just dumped a guy so that I could go back to my ex, but I'm still totally going to hang out with the guy and things will be fine." First, she should be ashamed to show her face around you, and second, if she's trying to make things work with her ex, she shouldn't still be associating with someone she recently dated. But at the same time, she's been very clear that that she doesn't want to be with you romantically, and you're still going along with the friendship, or whatever you'd call it. You really shouldn't keep trying to pursue someone who has dumped you for someone else. Twice. You've just got to have better standards for yourself. You should tell her that it's unhealthy to keep being friends, and that you need to stop talking to her permanently.
Toodaloo Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Keep away from the Drama Queen and you will feel happier...!
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