cottom Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 Was with a girl for a year and a half, turns out she'd cheated numerous times and the final straw came when i found out she had been sleeping with one guy 2 years younger than her, 4 younger than me (he is 18) and its my brothers mate that she met on my brothers birthday. Turns out they'd been sleeping together for the past 2 months while i work away during the week but am home friday night until monday morning. Well on my 22nd this year she never bothered getting me anything, i was hurt, i later found out off another person that she had been cheating (still on my birthday). So thats when everyones stories of seeing her with other guys etc started coming out, so to say i had a bad birthday was an understatement. The fact she was cheating helped get over her super fast rather than the whole maybe we can get back GIGS stages etc that keeps you locked in, so a week later i met a girl, we took things quite fast and we got together 3 weeks after my prior one ended. Anyway i just got a notification (confusingly as she was deleted) on facebook stating she is in a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with. It kinda hit me hard like, i just dont know how to feel over it, it hurts that thats the guy that she cheated with and now theyre together but i have a happy self confident girl with me now. I dont get why i felt hurt and insecure and just not worthy because she is now with the latest guy she cheated with.
Zahara Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 You were affected by this woman and betrayal is a painful thing to go through. It's normal that you feel this way because you've been triggered by that painful past. And maybe getting into a relationship so soon never really helped you resolve your feelings because your new relationship sort of masked your pain and hurt. Block her if you haven't already. Deleting and blocking are two different things. I know you are angry and possibly bitter that she gets to move on but start focusing on what's ahead of you and celebrate the good you now have in your life.
Mizz Layta Posted September 20, 2014 Posted September 20, 2014 First step is to remove your ex from your Face Book page so you can finally heal and move on.Cheating is a complete break in trust, if she can do it once what will stop her from doing it again.Leave in the past where she belongs
Author cottom Posted September 22, 2014 Author Posted September 22, 2014 Well she is deleted off my facebook, i don't see the need to block her cause im well over it. I see her out in local clubs all the time with new guys and can't help but laugh, i was out and met my new gfs mates bf and turns out he got with her too and i just laughed i found it genuinely funny that i can randomly bump into a guy and find out he cheated too. Its just having a relationship with the guy she cheated on me with, and this guys a goon too. A crackhead who works at McDonalds, got fired from sweeping up hair and left school at 15. And hes two years younger than her Im a postgraduate engineer with the government earning a hell of a lot of money. I met a girl who is naturally stunning though so im more then happy with her, its just that i guess having her be happy with the guy that caused me a **** load of stress and pain. In a time when i had a dad heart attack and a grandad we pulled the plug on.
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