DrSimple Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 (edited) With that type of headline you might have clicked on this thread expecting to see some schmoe peddling his latest and greatest dating advice that you have seen regurgitated on fifty different "10 Dating Tips" articles, well I sure hope that isn't the case today and I plan to keep it short. Think to yourself about the last few "First Date"s you may have had, were you nervous? What type of expectations did you have? Did you already name your kids "just in case" it goes right? The real success to doing well on a first date is about how you view the first date, the framing. If you always want to do well, you need to think of the first date as meeting a "person" rather than a "date". You are there to have a good time and enjoy your time with this "person", not there to assess them. That first date is your shot at sparking something, keep it light and fun rather then trying to assess if the person across from you has all the qualities you want in your baby daddy/mommy. Go into the date and show off who you are, rather than the person you think your date wants you to be. If you want to build a real connection that person will like you for who you are, rather then who you pretended to be. So go into that date and treat this person like they were your friend, that is the side you want to show to them. Be silly, be yourself, and have fun. If you can do that, you win every time. "But how do I win every time if I don't get a second date?" you ask? Well again, it is about framing. What does "winning" mean to you? Does it mean getting more dates? Does it mean sex? Does it mean marriage? To me, it means having a good time with the other person regardless of the outcome. That first date should be an excuse to meet someone new and have fun, rather then be thought of as a "task" meant to create an "end goal". Enjoy the experience for what it is. Also, if that person walks away from the first date and never speaks to you again after you were yourself then you have also "won". You have been able to assess that this person was not right for you and you lost nothing in the process because you were there to enjoy the experience. Edited September 19, 2014 by DrSimple
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