nicky Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Hi, I have been married for 3 years.I knew my husband for 6 months before we got married. we both never had sex before marraige. we tried to have sex after marraige but were not sucessfull. we tried a few times after marraige but since it was painfull avoided it.After that he never used to ask for it.I would have to initiate it every time.He would never initiate it.whenever I try to talk about it, he says I dont have time for it or this is not the time to have sex.I dont know what to do.I used to cry for my self and try to talk to him again after a few days.Now he started shouting when I cry about it. I am not sure what to do.I also tried to scare him by saying I want to leave him but he says what wrong have I done. I am not sure how to haddle this.I am also scared to talk about it again with him since he acts crazy when I talk about it. I am not sure if there is any specialist whom I can consult regarding this. please advise me.
cranium Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 Nicky, If you haven't yet, go over to marriagebuilders.com and review the Most Important Emotional Needs. There is some helpful information on sexual fulfillment and how to overcome pain during intercourse. Share this information with your husband. I and others have found this site to be beneficial. Best of luck.
KissMyTiara Posted March 7, 2005 Posted March 7, 2005 Originally posted by nicky we tried to have sex after marraige but were not sucessfull. What does this mean? How is sex not successful??
Sad Flower Posted March 8, 2005 Posted March 8, 2005 Yea WHAT THE??? so you guys have NEVER had sex?!?!?!?!? BIZARRE
harleygirl92156 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 HE'S GAY. GO AHEAD ASK HIM. OR BETTER YET, DO A LITTLE DETECTIVE WORK. THE MAN IS GAY!
Mr Spock Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 If this is a real post, please, get some professional help to guide you through your unusual and difficult situation.
blind_otter Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 there is a real disorder that causes pain during intercourse - one of them involves having blocked bartholin's ducts (which lubricate the vagina), the other is psychological. In either case, see your OB/GYN for more help. Your husband is probably avoiding you because it's scarey to try to express intimacy and have someone freak the f*ck out on them.
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