mortensorchid Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 I started a job a few weeks ago. I am a teacher, I work for a private company and I am being outsourced. In the few weeks I have been there, I have noticed two guys that work there. I realize this is a tremendous risk in doing an office romance of some kind, it is. Believe me I have had a lot of perfectly horrible work experiences in my lifetime with horrible coworkers who have taught me to be a very conservatively dressed, silent ice maiden with others on the job. And if you have never had that happen to you, God bless you. But I digress... In the last few days, however, there has been some shifting in the feel. I have been taking students in front of the room where one teaches, he and I have exchanged nothing but a few "Hi how are yous?" In passing, a smile here and there. I have been conducting interviews with the special needs students teaching ESL at the couch in front of his office. The other day he said to me "that's a nice sweater you have on". I said " Oh thank you.". Polite, professional. And it was not sexy, at least I didn't think it was as it covered a lot. Today we had a drill where we had to escort students to another building in case of emergencies. I was walking near him, two boys were acting up so I put myself between them. I asked the boys to behave. Then he asked me how many kids I was in charge of. I said I had none at the moment as I am not teaching at the moment but doing other things with them. I said I noticed them acting up and stepped between. He said "Thanks" and gave me a smile. I was tempted at that moment... To lower my su glasses and give him a wink. But I thought better of it just in case some student noticed. And if you have never been around high school and even some middle school students, you would be surprised at the things they notice. Now? Well I have a thing for him, slightly. I sense a bit for me (by that story does he?). I don't even know his first name. Am I being too anxious? What now?
ja123 Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 Just take it easy and chill. Be friendly, but don't make any overt moves such as winking. You could always introduce yourself and ask his first name; but, let him take the lead.
thekid36 Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 I started a job a few weeks ago. I am a teacher, I work for a private company and I am being outsourced. In the few weeks I have been there, I have noticed two guys that work there. I realize this is a tremendous risk in doing an office romance of some kind, it is. Believe me I have had a lot of perfectly horrible work experiences in my lifetime with horrible coworkers who have taught me to be a very conservatively dressed, silent ice maiden with others on the job. And if you have never had that happen to you, God bless you. But I digress... In the last few days, however, there has been some shifting in the feel. I have been taking students in front of the room where one teaches, he and I have exchanged nothing but a few "Hi how are yous?" In passing, a smile here and there. I have been conducting interviews with the special needs students teaching ESL at the couch in front of his office. The other day he said to me "that's a nice sweater you have on". I said " Oh thank you.". Polite, professional. And it was not sexy, at least I didn't think it was as it covered a lot. Today we had a drill where we had to escort students to another building in case of emergencies. I was walking near him, two boys were acting up so I put myself between them. I asked the boys to behave. Then he asked me how many kids I was in charge of. I said I had none at the moment as I am not teaching at the moment but doing other things with them. I said I noticed them acting up and stepped between. He said "Thanks" and gave me a smile. I was tempted at that moment... To lower my su glasses and give him a wink. But I thought better of it just in case some student noticed. And if you have never been around high school and even some middle school students, you would be surprised at the things they notice. Now? Well I have a thing for him, slightly. I sense a bit for me (by that story does he?). I don't even know his first name. Am I being too anxious? What now? I would be extremely careful in this case. Teachers are scrutinized much more than many professionals. I speak from specific experience. Not wrong for you to want more interaction with this man. Just have to be careful about it and perhaps reserve the winking and things like that for outside of school. Even then, there may be parents or students that still notice if you are in public. Especially, if it is a smaller town.
FitChick Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 Wait until the job ends. You don't even know if he is married or has a girlfriend. Don't chase him. You will just look foolish and might lose your job.
Author mortensorchid Posted September 19, 2014 Author Posted September 19, 2014 Wait until the job ends. You don't even know if he is married or has a girlfriend. Don't chase him. You will just look foolish and might lose your job. Agreed. I think I said I don't even know his first name. But that little hormone flux within that is reserved for lust said to do just so. All comments, especially above, are correct of course. I am going to relax. I am not even there today.
Author mortensorchid Posted September 23, 2014 Author Posted September 23, 2014 Well so much for that. Earlier today he sent an email to all staff about this event coming up. I said I would go (to the event) and also decided to use it as an excuse to introduce myself to him. Which I did in the hallway, and I said I would join but I didn't even know his name. We shook hands and introduced ourselves. He asked if I lived near where the event takes place I said no, I asked if he did. He said no but his gf lived near there. I said alright and I would look for him there on Wednesday. I guess better to find out now rather than later but I hope I didn't come off as too eager which is why he said that. Ah well, life goes on.
Crila16 Posted September 23, 2014 Posted September 23, 2014 There's definitely an interest, but to what degree is the question? Is he just a flirt with you, or does he flirt with lots of girls. Time will tell, that's all there is really to say. It's the beginning of the school year, so you have 9 months to go. If this guy is interested, I have a feeling it will be more clear by Christmas...just be patient. Let him do the pursuing, you just keep doing little things to show that you could be interested (keep it minimal). As for the not dating where you work...who cares??? Don't throw away a real deal over a chance it may not work out. In my high school, Mr. Scarpino was a football coach/English teacher...and his wife was the science teacher. They met working together...dated quietly...then got married.
Author mortensorchid Posted September 23, 2014 Author Posted September 23, 2014 There's definitely an interest, but to what degree is the question? Is he just a flirt with you, or does he flirt with lots of girls. Time will tell, that's all there is really to say. It's the beginning of the school year, so you have 9 months to go. If this guy is interested, I have a feeling it will be more clear by Christmas...just be patient. Let him do the pursuing, you just keep doing little things to show that you could be interested (keep it minimal). As for the not dating where you work...who cares??? Don't throw away a real deal over a chance it may not work out. In my high school, Mr. Scarpino was a football coach/English teacher...and his wife was the science teacher. They met working together...dated quietly...then got married. I sensed he was. Like I said, I don't know him at all, he could be one of those players who flirts with girls he encounters and I was one of them that he encountered. I'm glad I never did anything so overt like winking at him, but I was at least tempted and caught myself before actually doing it. That would have been embarrassing. But I will continue as you say. And hey, I think actually meeting someone like that is kind of romantic and sweet as opposed to all the craziness out there that I (and others) have experienced before.
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