TheyAreMakingMeCrazy Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 Hi everyone. I'm a little confused with this girl I'm seeing, so I was hoping to get some advice on my situation. I started talking to a girl I met online about a month ago. We went out on a date, and it went pretty well. We didn't kiss or anything, but we have a lot in common, and seem to get along really well. We continued texting nonstop for another few days, and then I abruptly didn't hear from her for a day, and then I heard from her and she asked me if we could talk. So we met up and she told me that her ex husband showed up unexpectedly the night we went out, and that she was confused or something. I didn't really understand what her deal was, or what was going on. It was a strange conversation that left me confused. So I told her it was ok, and that if she wanted to hang out, to just let me know. I figured the fact that she wanted to meet up to talk meant she liked me, since we had only gone out once, and not even kissed. I also figured at that point we would stop talking, but she still kept texting me, and we would talk nonstop all day. So about a week ago she asked if I wanted to hang out. She came over, and we ended up kissing that night. Then a few days ago, she came over again, and we ended up having sex and she slept over. And everything still seems pretty good, we are still texting a lot. Now here's where the confusion starts... So we get along great, and have a lot in common. And we never seem to run out of things to talk about (strangely enough, considering I'm not a huge talker). But of all the things we talk about, I can't really get any sense of what is going on between us. Almost every time I asked her when she wanted to hang out again, she would just ignore it and act like the message never came through. And I called her out on it. And she'll make a joke or something, but never really answer. But then eventually she asked if I wanted to hang out. And I've made comments saying that I like her and stuff, but I don't seem to get the same type of response. And if I call her out on that, she'll say something like she wouldn't have come over if she didn't want to see me. I'm not sure if she's just confused, or if some of this is due to shyness, or what the deal is. Her mom apparently knows who I am already too, fyi. And here's where I'm really confused... Every time we hang out, she is always getting messages on the dating site on her phone, and has no problem opening it up and telling me that she never responds to anyone, and that I could even look at it. Or she'll show me messages that she thinks were funny, etc. I'd jump on the site occasionally and see if she was still on, and it looked like she was only on once a day or so. As far as I could tell, she was telling the truth. But the last 2 days since we had sex, it looks like she's on quite a bit more. So I'm assuming she's talking to someone on there now. But we are still constantly talking too. I've made little jokes about her deleting her account, and making fun of the situation. But it's at the point where I need to know what's going on between us, and if there's something, then I would like her to get off the site. If not, I don't want to waste my time, and I'd like to start seeing other people. So how do I try to bring up what's going on with us? Do I just come out and ask her? Should I wait until next time I see her? Do I ignore all of this, and try to forget the fact that she's still frequently on the site? And when is it appropriate for me to ask her to get off the site? Is it ok now since we always talk, and have had sex? Do I need to wait until she is officially my girlfriend? Should I wait until I see her in person? Thanks for any advice!
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