gmo Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 We were together for almost 18 months, and two weeks ago he just ended it out of the blue. He said he didn't feel the same about me, that he doesn't love me anymore Even looking back, I can't find any signs that anything was wrong, but apparently he hadn't been feeling the same for over 6 weeks. Initially, I was so shocked and overwhelmed, I pretty much ran away from the situation. The next day we met up to talk about it, and he was crying just as much as I was. I asked him if he was crying because he felt like a bad person for hurting me, or because he was sad that we're breaking up & he said "leaving you is just so hard" THEN WHY WAS HE DOING IT?! We sat and cried with each other for like 5 hours, we actually fell asleep crying in each others arms.. I practically begged him to rethink his decision (pathetic, I know..) I asked if we could just go on a break, or start over and just go on a few dates or something, promised I would try harder to be a better girlfriend, all of that stuff.. but he refused. I asked him if there was anyone else, and he promised me there wasn't.. although at one point he said "I haven't been seeing anyone else" which might indicate that he at least has feelings for someone? I don't know if I'm just overthinking that or not but the thought of it kills me. I don't understand though, because even just a few days before he broke up with me, he was talking about how he was going to take me out on more dates this year and he even enrolled in a class with me so that we'd have it together. Needless to say, it SUCKS having to see him there every day We haven't spoken since then, and I'm still not finding it any easier. I moved to this town and to this university to be with him (I always said I'd never do that but I really thought he was "the one" you know?) so pretty much everyone I know here is through him. I feel so alone, and I want to break the NC so badly. Every single time I see him on campus, it hits me all over again that he fell out of love with me & it hurts so much. I just wish there was something I could do
johnson_j Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 Hang in there sweetie, it's unfortunate but the only thing you can do is to take care of yourself, and live a great life. Maybe one day he will see what he has missed out on. Never know why these things end so suddenly.
FeuFollet Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 You don't need another person to be happy, complete, social, or anything else. It's very hard to be single all of the sudden, especially when you had no say in the matter. Accept where you are, and take the small steps required to build yourself a life of your own. He might realize he made a mistake. He might not. Take this time to grow stronger and delve within to find out who you are and what you really want.
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