soul83 Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 I've just turned 31. I have been with my wife for 6 years now. We married when I was 26. She has had more than one partner. I haven't. She was my first serious girlfriend. I haven't experienced sex with different women. And I have no intention to try that out! I think many people must think I'm weird to not have dated around and had sex with different women first before settling. My wife is from another culture. I will admit that in the past couple of years I have sometimes wondered what it would be like to be with a woman from my own culture. But I often remind myself that just wanting to be with someone different doesn't guarantee success and that it is ridiculous to think of life without my wife. Honestly, I would never want to leave my wife just to see if I could find someone else. I don't understand people who want to throw away their relationships in the hope of finding something better. There's that risk for them that they won't find a satisfying or lasting relationship again... My wife says I'm so pure to only have thoughts for her. I'm not perfect though because I have looked at porn in the past but I still rely on dirty thoughts of what I could be doing with my wife instead of looking at others etc. Am I normal to only want to be with one woman for the rest of my life? Maybe the fact that I haven't had sex with more than one woman hasn't given me a comparison or reason to think about dating others in the past...
mightycpa Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 Thank your lucky stars you're not normal. But I would think it would be difficult to fully appreciate a good wife if you haven't experienced some of the hell that other people have to offer.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 You are completely normal. It is the world around you that is mad. I am like you... and never feel like I shouldn't be any different. Some women enjoy knowing that their man is 100% happy with them. Others find it difficult. Not by the men they had, but they are in a constant battle with maintaining their looks, as they want to be always desirable to their mate. If the world could be blind, there would be a lot more happier peeps out there. But I would not trust them to drive.
GoBlue Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 I agree with the other posts - there is nothing special about being with several different women. Believe me I have been there and done that. The honest to goodness truth is that if I could go back in time and change that about my history - I would in an instant. Be encouraged, don't give in to temptation, and avoid the pornography thing as well. Nothing good comes out of it. Unfortunately, I've been there as well! One man - One woman - that was always the plan from the beginning. Those who try to say that monogamy is unnatural are not being honest with their own true nature. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Be blessed! 1
FitChick Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 Read a book on how to spice up your marriage. Perhaps read it together in bed so you can try out new things.
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