asianpartyboy Posted March 5, 2005 Posted March 5, 2005 I think this could just be a sense of loss on her side. I am a very handsome and successful 25 old. My ex is successful too. She broke up with me because I acted too needy in a ltr almost a year ago. We were a very good couple and all the friends in our circle were jealous of us when we were together. I went through the horrible but invaluable experience of losing someone that I could just die for. I am very happy with my new life and very busy too. We are still in long distance. But we both moved to the same country(we broke up a month after she moved, I followed after 4 months). We are two hours apart right now instead of 16 hours before. I am cool with the break-up. I accept what happened and moved on with my life. But I always have her in mind and would email her for holidays and valentine's day. In the mails, I don't talk about how I feel and the break-up. I keep it as friendly as possible. In my last email, I told her I don't know whether we will meet with each other again after she goes back to her country. I wished her luck. But now all of sudden she is asking things about me, telling me things about her, and also ask me to help her finding information about the local university. If you read so far, you know that I still care about my relationship with her and I don't want us to be hurt anymore. I want to listen to what she has to say about it. What's the best way to make her talk? Should I just answer all her questions and make a few funny remarks, or should I tell her that I can help with her feelings because we know each other so well through being together for almost 2 years? Thanks in advance. -a
westernxer Posted March 6, 2005 Posted March 6, 2005 You're never going to get over her if you keep talking to her.
Author asianpartyboy Posted March 7, 2005 Author Posted March 7, 2005 I have been ok for the last year without her, so not sure why it would be a problem to talk to her once in a while. Yes, I do care about her. But I care about myself more than her now. Isn't it enough? I guess NC subjects to different interpretations by different people. Anyway, I would like to hear about what is the right step to take now. I agree the easiest would be NC. But I want to have a second chance with her if she is willing to admit that she made a mistake(through action). The thing is, I grew up/mature so much that I don't think she being flaky one more time would hurt me anymore. I would be disppointed, that's for sure. But I will be strong enough to handle any outcome. I don't know. I don't think this is affecting me in any way in terms of my life, work, and other things. I think about it a bit over the weekend. I just want to handle this as cool as possible. Define cool in this situation for me is what I needed:-). Thanks, -a
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