bobbyt Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 So i have a thing for a guy I work with. It has been going on for a couple of years, most of this time he was my supervisor so could not get involved. Now he has stepped down and is the same level as me. For the whole time we have been very flirty - slightly rude jokes, touching each others arm in conversation, hugs. But other times i feel like he doesn't want to talk to me, like i may be annoying him. We don't really talk that much in work and don't talk outside of work. When we do talk it isnt really serious conversation or i walk away finding them a little weird - today for example he brought up a "romantic" fling I had 2 years ago, not something I knew he knew! It is definitely me that initiates the conversation. I just want to know if he sees it as friends or more, but as we work together closely it could be awkward if i have the wrong end of the stick... HELPPPP!!!
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 If he frequently seems annoyed with you, he's not interested. But more importantly, if you're the one doing all the initiating, he's definitely not interested. Don't make a move; it would be tremendously awkward for both of you. Start going on dates with guys who are into you...but don't feel bad about having a harmless crush on this guy. 1
Assasda Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 I think he may like you, but he doesnt want to get involved because of the job situation. So he's backing off, I advise that you just back off as well 1
Mister Zen Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 He isn't into you. But you can always invite him to grab drinks. Maybe you'll get lucky..
Author bobbyt Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 When I say he seems annoyed, we have our normal conversation but then he flashes me a look. People who have seen us together say there is definitely something there. I am an overthinker which really annoys me... Everything that happens when we are together ends up as 5 different possibilities/outcomes! WOMEN!!!
preraph Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 If he frequently seems annoyed with you, then why on earth would you WANT him to turn romantic. Talk about just asking for punishment.
Author bobbyt Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 If he frequently seems annoyed with you, then why on earth would you WANT him to turn romantic. Talk about just asking for punishment. I have been "told off" by my manager for talking to him at his desk... If i have been told, chances are so has he. The things he has actually done for me are things a good friend would do, or at least someone who cares about another would do.
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