Diezel Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I always love how the immediate assumption is: It's because of the sex. My longest relationship was 6 years. We had sex on the first date. It happens.
Gaeta Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 Would you consider the sex good? When I change my mind about a guy after sex it's because something didn't click in me, he did something awkward, or I just didn't feel connected during the act, not that he did something bad. Also, maybe it's about the sex but just in your mind. Maybe you need some extra reassurance after being intimate, cause you're not used to casual sex, and he just keeps on being the same dude so you worry.
Atticus9292012 Posted September 17, 2014 Posted September 17, 2014 I would wait for how he behaves when he comes back. It is weird he was stand offish after the sex, but it could be nothing. I'd stop reaching out and wait and see. Keep your options open.
Author lanabanana Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 i kind of cringed when I read that...sounds like you are 16...but obviously you are not. Like the other person said, could be that he thought you were texting someone else or hiding something. Wait until he comes back unless he is obviously showing that he isn't interested. whats obvious disinterest? he has texted me everyday since hes been on his work trip, just less often and less enthusiasm. He did respond to my text by sending me a picture.
WhatIsLove2014 Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 whats obvious disinterest? he has texted me everyday since hes been on his work trip, just less often and less enthusiasm. He did respond to my text by sending me a picture. Obviously as in you know it...like no responses or he says he's not interested.
Author lanabanana Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 Ok people. So he talked to me more today and is coming home Friday night. He asked me to come over Saturday night and said he is exhausted from work and wants to just chill. I bit the bullet and asked if things were okay just because he "acted weird last weekend" and he said "really? how so?" and I told him he acted aloof and like I wasn't really there. He said "I have personal issues on my mind but I didn't think I was acting that much different" And to clarify something I said earlier, he acted that way for 4 hours before we had sex Friday night too (actually right when I got there to his place I asked him if he was tired or something) So I have no clue what his "personal issues" are. Can any men shed some light? I don't want to pressure him about it bc I don't want to be a source of stress
browneyes88 Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 Ok people. So he talked to me more today and is coming home Friday night. He asked me to come over Saturday night and said he is exhausted from work and wants to just chill. I bit the bullet and asked if things were okay just because he "acted weird last weekend" and he said "really? how so?" and I told him he acted aloof and like I wasn't really there. He said "I have personal issues on my mind but I didn't think I was acting that much different" And to clarify something I said earlier, he acted that way for 4 hours before we had sex Friday night too (actually right when I got there to his place I asked him if he was tired or something) So I have no clue what his "personal issues" are. Can any men shed some light? I don't want to pressure him about it bc I don't want to be a source of stress Work stress, maybe someone in his family is sick, who knows?
Fondue Posted September 18, 2014 Posted September 18, 2014 People have to stop over-analyzing everything. Seriously. Now you look like an insecure/needy lady. Not that he might think of it as such, but to the rest of us men, that's what it looks like. He just told you nothing was wrong. He's dealing with a personal issue. And he himself said nothing was wrong and he didn't act differently. Next time, take a breath, ease your mind, and calm down. Things are almost never as bad as they seem. I hate it when people jump to conclusions.
Author lanabanana Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 People have to stop over-analyzing everything. Seriously. Now you look like an insecure/needy lady. Not that he might think of it as such, but to the rest of us men, that's what it looks like. He just told you nothing was wrong. He's dealing with a personal issue. And he himself said nothing was wrong and he didn't act differently. Next time, take a breath, ease your mind, and calm down. Things are almost never as bad as they seem. I hate it when people jump to conclusions. Most of the time my gut instinct is right. In fact, if I had listened to my gut more and didn't brush it off as "over analyzing" I could have 3 less terrible relationships to speak of. I didn't ask him about his personal issues.
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