Author Toodaloo Posted September 18, 2014 Author Posted September 18, 2014 So, my advice is to try dating and see how it goes. If it goes well, that's great. If not, that's OK too. Better IMO to go and to know. Good luck! Will let you know when I am eventually brave enough to "get back on the horse" so you can keep me in line and remind me not to be a pillock! Thanks for all the advice guys and reading through the drivel. If I could find someone who wanted to "make me happy" that would be fantastic. Means I would be "safe" to spoil them rotten
Supernatural Posted September 19, 2014 Posted September 19, 2014 Good post, I can particularly relate to the first part I've highlighted in bold. I think I'm ready, but I like a lot of things about being on my own too. I do think you are right, being pre occupied with trying to find someone just puts you on a path to disappointment and wastes your time. We must focus on fulfilling our own life and when we are truly in a good place and happy in our own skin - just doing our own thing, then maybe someone truly special will come into our lives. Exactly. I think when you focus on your life's path more-so than trying to add a date to the roster, the right people enter your world instead of ones who YOU THINK should enter. The right people/jobs just show up when you're not worrying or trying super hard to just obtain something for the sake of it. I would rather go on 1 amazingly beautiful date over a 1 year span than 6 dates every month over a year to find the suitable person. The difference is huge. Mentally, spiritually, and physically of how you will react. They say a 'date is a date', and 'a calorie is a calorie'. I don't agree. different dates at different times have a different affect on you. Weird example I know! Dating today is a sport. And it shouldn't be. So if it's a sport and people do it all the time for leisure to 'do something'... Something has to be being missed, or certain presumptions go the whole field. "a guy didn't pay for my coffee".. So this means that. - Actually it doesn't because this person is brand new with a different life and experiences leading up to this point. Dating is all generalized of what someone should do. And I think very very rarely do you actually SEE a person on a first date. Most are too busy judging and being tense. This is why dating is stupid. Because it's a game based on a lot of shallow ideas of what people SHOULD do or who they are. Everything is turning so robotic. I think somewhere in early/mid-20's a lot of people gave in to the idea "I need to be with someone to be happy, because this is what is accepted and normal and will make me". A big part of life is patience. We have just forgotten this in our fast paced immediate validation society. Some people on this board go on like 6 dates a month.. Do you think they will find a proper suitor? Or will something always be a lack? The media has given us a false sense of perfection nowadays, and the sheep are flocking to that idea trying to find it.
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